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I'm struggling with the loss of my mum

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I'm finding it very hard at the moment. Mum passed away 2 weeks ago, after a long battle with cancer, we knew she didn't have long left towards the end but it still wasn't easy letting go. It's just me and my dad now, i don't live at home but live round the corner, we've never really been particularly close I was always closer to mum, she was my best friend, I just don't know how we're going to get through this. I also don't have anyone else, I live alone and don't really have any friends so it's been a struggle that way too. I know I will get through it, it's just really difficult just now and can't see how I'll get through it even though I know I will.

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    Hi Lou,

    I am in a very similar situation to you.  My mum died 7 months ago and I am still really struggling, which isn't the most positive thing to tell you, but I too believe I will eventually come through it.  I have heard that the first 2 years are the hardest.

    I still live at home, so just with my dad now.  I don't really have friends either, my mum was my best friend and I have never been as close to my dad, although deep down I know he loves me as much as my mum did and I am sure your dad does too.  It is a situation I never expected to find myself in.  My mum was 14 years younger than my dad (only 70) and we always assumed he would go first.  I thought I would have my mum for many years yet.

    It is a very lonely time for us, but Carlos is right when he says that life goes by very quickly and that our mums would have wanted us to enjoy the time we have left until we hopefully see them again.

    Feel free to PM me any time if you would like to chat to someone.  I find that talking on forums like this helps to ease the loneliness a little, especially if you don't have many people in your life.

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    Hi Lou,

    I am in a very similar situation to you.  My mum died 7 months ago and I am still really struggling, which isn't the most positive thing to tell you, but I too believe I will eventually come through it.  I have heard that the first 2 years are the hardest.

    I still live at home, so just with my dad now.  I don't really have friends either, my mum was my best friend and I have never been as close to my dad, although deep down I know he loves me as much as my mum did and I am sure your dad does too.  It is a situation I never expected to find myself in.  My mum was 14 years younger than my dad (only 70) and we always assumed he would go first.  I thought I would have my mum for many years yet.

    It is a very lonely time for us, but Carlos is right when he says that life goes by very quickly and that our mums would have wanted us to enjoy the time we have left until we hopefully see them again.

    Feel free to PM me any time if you would like to chat to someone.  I find that talking on forums like this helps to ease the loneliness a little, especially if you don't have many people in your life.

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