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I'm struggling with the loss of my mum

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I'm finding it very hard at the moment. Mum passed away 2 weeks ago, after a long battle with cancer, we knew she didn't have long left towards the end but it still wasn't easy letting go. It's just me and my dad now, i don't live at home but live round the corner, we've never really been particularly close I was always closer to mum, she was my best friend, I just don't know how we're going to get through this. I also don't have anyone else, I live alone and don't really have any friends so it's been a struggle that way too. I know I will get through it, it's just really difficult just now and can't see how I'll get through it even though I know I will.

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    Hello Lou, I know it's only words, but I truly do understand how you are feeling, and I am sorry for your loss.  When my mum died of cancer, I also felt lost.  For a very long time it didn't seem real.  Like you say, you know that you will somehow get through it, but right now you can't see how.  The mother/child bond is so strong that when we lose our mums, it really does feel like a part of ourselves has died.  Lou, you will never completely get over the loss of your mum, but I PROMISE you that you will get to a point when you have learned to accept that she is no longer here in the physical sense, and you will be able to live your life again. Sadly there are no short-cuts, but eventually you will see your way forward.  Good luck Lou, Violet, xx

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    Hello Lou, I know it's only words, but I truly do understand how you are feeling, and I am sorry for your loss.  When my mum died of cancer, I also felt lost.  For a very long time it didn't seem real.  Like you say, you know that you will somehow get through it, but right now you can't see how.  The mother/child bond is so strong that when we lose our mums, it really does feel like a part of ourselves has died.  Lou, you will never completely get over the loss of your mum, but I PROMISE you that you will get to a point when you have learned to accept that she is no longer here in the physical sense, and you will be able to live your life again. Sadly there are no short-cuts, but eventually you will see your way forward.  Good luck Lou, Violet, xx

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