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Losing my Mum

Claireh26
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I wanted to ask you how you cope watching someone you love dearly losing their life to this disgusting illness. I lost my Dad in March and my Mum is losing her fight against Multiple Myeloma. I'm sitting at her bedside now in the hospital watching this tiny but mighty lady that means the world to me literally fading. The cancer is affecting her brain now and she can't speak and can't open her eyes. Swallowing is also difficult. I've been sitting here all night dreading her passing away. I am not sure if I should be here when that time comes or not. Im scared for what is going to happen to me afterwards as I have no family and no one now that my Mum is going to go. I am

so broken and devastated I don't think I will ever be able to get over this: it is like being in a terrible nightmare . I'm trying to be strong for my Mum but my heart is broken and it actually physically hurts me to imagine my life without my best friend and Mum. Please tell me that you can cope when something like this happens as I don't think I can . I'm broken and I feel like I've died too. 

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    My mum has terminal cancer and having no treatment. I am trying to think of things that will bring comfort in the future. Mum drew a heart and wrote love mum and I have had that tattood on my back so I know she will always have my back. If she cannot do this then perhaps you have her writing on a birthday card or letter that you could use. Also, I have heard that hearing is one of the last senses to go so talking to your mum might help her at the end and bring you comfort in the future knowing you did all you could. My mum is being very brave but my main worry is knowing she is in pain. I just want her to be comfortable and not suffer. It is heartbreaking. I was so close to my nan and I lost her in 2003. I still miss  her incredibly and think of her often and still have a little cry now and then. Your mum will be at peace and although you will never stop missing her every day will help and new things will come in to your life that help you to move on. xxx

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    My mum has terminal cancer and having no treatment. I am trying to think of things that will bring comfort in the future. Mum drew a heart and wrote love mum and I have had that tattood on my back so I know she will always have my back. If she cannot do this then perhaps you have her writing on a birthday card or letter that you could use. Also, I have heard that hearing is one of the last senses to go so talking to your mum might help her at the end and bring you comfort in the future knowing you did all you could. My mum is being very brave but my main worry is knowing she is in pain. I just want her to be comfortable and not suffer. It is heartbreaking. I was so close to my nan and I lost her in 2003. I still miss  her incredibly and think of her often and still have a little cry now and then. Your mum will be at peace and although you will never stop missing her every day will help and new things will come in to your life that help you to move on. xxx

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