Hi Martin,

Firstly, so sorry of your loss.  Losing your partner is agony, as they are the one person you turn to when things get bad.

I can relate as I lost my partner in October 2021 to cancer.  Danielle was only 38 and passed very suddenly (5 days after receiving the diagnosis).  I think I am still in complete shock, as she had no symptoms until about 4 weeks prior to her passing.  She passed away in my arms at 22:22pm on the 12/10/21 leaving two kids (8 & 4).

I too went back to work, about 4 weeks after her passing which was extremely difficult but I needed distraction from the utter pain I was feeling.  I still have bad days and struggle with the loneliness, even though I have great friends and family, they aren't Danielle...

My only advice I can offer is to keep busy and talk to people about your wife, even if it upsets you.  I still get upset talking about how it all went down and that's ok.  I exercise 4-5 times a week now which I find has really helped my mind from working overdrive too.

I know it's not much and no one can tell you how to grieve, as that is your journey but just know you are not alone.

Stay strong...

Mark

Desperately sorry for your loss, Mark. 

Desperately sorry for your loss, Mark.