Hello Martin1962

I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of your darling wife just a few short months ago. Grief is a natural process but it can be devastating and it's understandable that you're struggling with things as you've described. 

I'm glad that you've reached out to others on the forum for help. There is lots of support available and I'll give you some links further in my reply but firstly I'd really encourage you to talk to your GP. They really will be a good place to start and will be able to offer you some support with how you're feeling. 

I can see that another one of our members has already mentioned bereavement counselling and this is something that I know lots of our members here have found helpful during their journey with grief. Your GP may be able to recommend a local service but I'd also suggest looking at the information on the Cruse website. They're a national charity that can offer bereavement support and many of our members here have had help from them before. 

I also wanted to give you the link to Samaritans. They are available 24/7 365 days a year so even in those darkest moments that you've described, there will be someone on the end of the phone to listen to you. Please reach out to them Martin if you're struggling with thoughts of suicide. 

There may be days when it feels like an eternity since you last saw your wife but it is still early days and there is a lot to cope with your grief. Please be kind to yourself Martin. Talk to those around you. Reach out to her family and friends and lean on them for support. 

You are very welcome to post here on the forum and chat with others who understand the pain that comes with loss. If it helps to have someone safe to offload your thoughts and feelings then please keep doing that here and we will support you as best we can through this difficult time. 

Best wishes, 
Jenn
Cancer Chat moderator 

Hello Martin1962

I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of your darling wife just a few short months ago. Grief is a natural process but it can be devastating and it's understandable that you're struggling with things as you've described. 

I'm glad that you've reached out to others on the forum for help. There is lots of support available and I'll give you some links further in my reply but firstly I'd really encourage you to talk to your GP. They really will be a good place to start and will be able to offer you some support with how you're feeling. 

I can see that another one of our members has already mentioned bereavement counselling and this is something that I know lots of our members here have found helpful during their journey with grief. Your GP may be able to recommend a local service but I'd also suggest looking at the information on the Cruse website. They're a national charity that can offer bereavement support and many of our members here have had help from them before. 

I also wanted to give you the link to Samaritans. They are available 24/7 365 days a year so even in those darkest moments that you've described, there will be someone on the end of the phone to listen to you. Please reach out to them Martin if you're struggling with thoughts of suicide. 

There may be days when it feels like an eternity since you last saw your wife but it is still early days and there is a lot to cope with your grief. Please be kind to yourself Martin. Talk to those around you. Reach out to her family and friends and lean on them for support. 

You are very welcome to post here on the forum and chat with others who understand the pain that comes with loss. If it helps to have someone safe to offload your thoughts and feelings then please keep doing that here and we will support you as best we can through this difficult time. 

Best wishes, 
Jenn
Cancer Chat moderator