Hi 

Sorry to read you find yourself at the end of your husbands toxic remarks. 

Whilst I totally understand how hurtful this is going through treatment is horrific. 

I'm currently going through chemo for breast cancer and I've been very lucky my relationship with my partner is if anything stronger however both he and others offer advice, help and sometimes it's just all consuming. Unless your the patient its hard to really understand and explain what your body and mind is going through. 

I spend the day on my own with just TV and dogs due to his work, your mind plays havoc with you. 

Can you take some time out do things for yourself, for your own mental health.

Hope this helps a bit.

Best wishes

Louise x

im really sorry your having to face this from your husband.

no doubt you are worried about .i hope you can be there for him amd maybe 

try understand that is emotions could be all over the place.

i know its not quite the same but my partner Jayne had breast cancer at times she would be 

quite nasty with her quips but i just accepted this as i loved her more than anything.

though every week or so she would say sorry for acting as she did,but i just told her not to

worry as i understand that what she was facing was screwing with her emotions.

sadly i lost my partner Jayne just over 2 years ago and im missing her like crazy.

i just hope you can maybe try have a little chat and explain how you feel.

maybe hes unaware of how hurtful hes being.i hope you can sort this and be there for each other.

sorry im no real help.take care 

On the contrary Jayneian, I have learnt a lot from your post. He has calmed down. I think it's the shock. I have also learnt to be more persevering. We will get there. 
Many thanks for reaching out to me. So sorry for your loss. Hugs. 

you are very welcome,

i hope every thing works out for you both.take  care 

In my opinion there is no need to be nasty to you nomatter how he feels, those exercises are for his own good and should keep him occupied so he thinks less about the bad and can concentrate on the good, like he's alive and getting better, and he has a lovely and helping wife.

I hope [@telemando]‍  can come on and talk to you and him he's been there done that got the tee shirts.

im abit different my prostate cancer has spread to lymph nodes spine ribs pelvis and a lung,I was diagnosed Feb 2016been on palative care,im also a carer for my darling wife she has Alzheimer's and Parkinson's plus other problems,so I don't get time to think about my problems have to put her first,24/7.

Hope he gets exercising regularly and starts being a good husband again.

Take care keep positive.

Others on forum have had similar problems with partners there partner and told to just go into another room or go for a walk to leave them to it .. personally I think he kneeds things to keep him occupied All the time.

Billy