Hi have you been in touch with Macmillan or Marie curie.

,One of them should be able to help ease your workload even if it is only now and again.

Or carers coming so many times a day to get out of bed, wash or shower and meals and back into bed at night,if neaded.

I'm a carer for my wife she has Alzheimer's and Parkinson's plus other problems.so its 24/7as well,if you can get in touch with (CARERS FIRST) you might get money off some things so it's easier and less stressful.

Hope you can get something sorted soon.

Take care.

Billy

Hi have you been in touch with Macmillan or Marie curie.

,One of them should be able to help ease your workload even if it is only now and again.

Or carers coming so many times a day to get out of bed, wash or shower and meals and back into bed at night,if neaded.

I'm a carer for my wife she has Alzheimer's and Parkinson's plus other problems.so its 24/7as well,if you can get in touch with (CARERS FIRST) you might get money off some things so it's easier and less stressful.

Hope you can get something sorted soon.

Take care.

Billy

Thanks Billy,

At the moment its not so much physical care - both Mum and Dad are able to do that for thems elves and my usband hasnt started his treatment yet. The current burden is more meotional - I am doing 3 sets of appointments/chemo appointments/consultations and also all the ringing round to organise blood tests/pic line flushes etc ; on top of a full time job and running a household of 5 which contains 3 sick adults.

I was managing OK until my husbands diagnosis - its a mental thing I think- I just suddenly feel utterly over whelmed and emotionally barren - my mental get up and go has got up and gone!
I obviously want to be there for my husband but sitting in the same office listening to the same team for the 3rd time I just want to put my head down and cry- it feels like I have used up all of my emotion and there is nothing left.
I need to get back up and running as my husband needs me but there's just nothing left.

There is definitely practical help out there and it's worth asking for - just to get a gap of time where you can start to process things in your own head. (I know the feeling of willing children to sign up for after school clubs at the same time so I could have 30mins down time between work and picking them up - and that's without any cancer treatments going on.) 

Someone else suggested contacting Macmillan. Other services vary by area, but it is key to contact your own GP and get yourself registered as carer for everyone else. They can signpost you to local services that will give you space to talk, or respite time. There are caring for carers services in my part of the country, including social prescribing, and your GP is the route in.

Hope you find some space, so you can be there for your husband.