Hi there ...

So so sorry your going through this heartbraking time at the moment... 

Cancer is the reason he's angry .. it is not an excuse to be angry and take it out on those who care and try to help .. you should never be anyone's punch bag ... 

I've got cancer too, and yes it's rough and crule, but I'd never take it out on those I love .. if I were you, when he gets angry , I'd walk out and do something completely different ... and only go back when he's being civil  ... that way he'll learn when he looses it .. people go .. when he's calmer you'll stay .. try not to get angry .. don't shout back, just go .. or say "dad I'm not taking that from you" and get out the situation ..   

Please don't take it ... it's abuse ... the longer he gets away with it, the angrier he'll get ... you can tell him you love him .. but are not staying to be shouted at .. fingers crossed it won't take long for him to realise he only gets positive attention when he's being o.k ... if ever I shouted or vented at my son's .. I hope they'd deff go and not take it ... your an amazing son taking it as much as you have .. he's very lucky to have you ...   Chrissie x

Hi you must be living a nightmare guess your dads frustrated angry and frightend and depressed and with men depression can manifest itself with anger maybe have a word with your gp they may be able to give your dad something to help calme him down a bit .but your not there as whipping boy for his anger at cancer.best to be just straght tell him its realy stressing you out and he needs to calme down its a horrible thing your both going through but it shouldnt be like that ime so sorry your all going through this but have a word with go or his nurse first then work from there eh .paul

Hi 

My Dad on occasions would take his frustrations out on me , at first I would have a go back but quickly realised that this was about him and what he was feeling . I then started to say that he had every right to be angry and that I was ok with him having a go , im sure it also helped him as he would be calm afterwards. He on occasions would apologise and I’d say there was no need as it was his right to be angry , I also witnessed him cry a little which as you could imagine would upset me - your Dad’s feeling of anger are natural , he loves you just the same , he’s allowed to be angry and so are you . Keep doing what your doing and maybe tell him it’s ok , see how he reacts . 

I remember telling my Dad that If I could take his illness away I would , If I could give him an organ to help him I would but we both knew it wouldn’t help  .......  he said “ son I know you’d do that for me “ tell your Dad what you want to tell him , I think it’s that simple .

Take care both .