My partner has had a dreadful year. Hes been unluckly in having two separate cancers. More recently hes been dianoised with lymphoma after a two month stay in hospital. Also having two of the dreaded phone calls from ICU. He's pulled through! Its been a tramatic time for everyone and i feel up till now ive been there with him. Since returning home things have been made difficult his family has completely taken over. Everything i touch or do at his home is changed. If i help out its already been done. Even though we been together 11 years i feel like im being shut out. As if being controlled by this awful disease isnt bad enough i feel totally helpless around him. To the point where i feel extremely depressed. Im a very independent person!  Really dont want to approach anything because he has been through more pain than i thought possible. Im sure he can see im struggling x any suggestion? X