Hi Kelly, I have never posted on a forum before, but I lost my Dad to cancer last October, just 3 months after he was diagnosed. I went through similar feelings of anger and despair. I remembering reading these posts wanting answers and hope, and today for the first time since he’s passed something made me want to come on here and see if I could help anyone who was in my situation those few months ago. I would recommend getting help from the Macmillan or Farleigh nurses in your area. Has your Dad been assigned any yet? They will really help with supporting you too. And if there is any way you can free more time up to be with your Dad, then do it. I 100% believe this to be the most important advice I could give you. Finally, allow yourself to feel all the feelings as they come...anger, sadness, loss, and everything else in between. It’s the hardest thing I’ve been through, and I promise that although you’ll never be the same, it will be easier over time and the cliche of time is a healer is very true. You will find a new normal and you will be ok. But make as many memories as you can with him, and do as much talking as you can.

And although you feel (quite rightly) ripped off that he’s probably not going to be in your life for as long as you expected, try and think of all the wonderful times shared between you. How lucky you are to have him as your Dad. Cherish the good memories and what he has bought to your life. Remember that although he’s only been around for that amount of years, he has achieved a lot and has a lot of love around him. Good luck and I’m truly sorry you are going through this pain. Shelley

Hi Kelly, I have never posted on a forum before, but I lost my Dad to cancer last October, just 3 months after he was diagnosed. I went through similar feelings of anger and despair. I remembering reading these posts wanting answers and hope, and today for the first time since he’s passed something made me want to come on here and see if I could help anyone who was in my situation those few months ago. I would recommend getting help from the Macmillan or Farleigh nurses in your area. Has your Dad been assigned any yet? They will really help with supporting you too. And if there is any way you can free more time up to be with your Dad, then do it. I 100% believe this to be the most important advice I could give you. Finally, allow yourself to feel all the feelings as they come...anger, sadness, loss, and everything else in between. It’s the hardest thing I’ve been through, and I promise that although you’ll never be the same, it will be easier over time and the cliche of time is a healer is very true. You will find a new normal and you will be ok. But make as many memories as you can with him, and do as much talking as you can.

And although you feel (quite rightly) ripped off that he’s probably not going to be in your life for as long as you expected, try and think of all the wonderful times shared between you. How lucky you are to have him as your Dad. Cherish the good memories and what he has bought to your life. Remember that although he’s only been around for that amount of years, he has achieved a lot and has a lot of love around him. Good luck and I’m truly sorry you are going through this pain. Shelley