Hi Krystal

It sounds as if you dont have much time left with your mother and things can go on very slowly ans then suddely deterioate very quickly so its important you make as much of this time as possible. I'm guessing from what you say that she's not that mobile but do what you can with her to try to have a bit of fun with her. or just talk about the good times.

Try not to get too angry it doesn't help - remember there are people out there not dealing with the loss of a parent but the loss of a husband - the loss of a child.

I know what you mean about what to expect, We talk endlessly about the mechanics if sex and birth but never about death. I find that the professionals tend not to offer information unless you ask directly. IWhen my wife was dying I asked the palliative team what it would be like and they were very helpful - they were great in all sorts of ways actually. McMillan too, they are very helpful but ask them things directly.

You know the old thing about "give mre the strength to chang the things I can change the serenity to accept the things I cant and the wisdom to know the difference"? Thats my top tip. You cant change what will happen, you can change how it will, If you accept her inevitable passing and concentrate on making sure that it is as easy as possible and that she slips away knowing that she is loved surrounded by familly and friends you will be able to feel you have done what you needed to do.

And if you find it difficult to talk to familly and friends about how you feel come on here and talk to us

Hi Krystal

It sounds as if you dont have much time left with your mother and things can go on very slowly ans then suddely deterioate very quickly so its important you make as much of this time as possible. I'm guessing from what you say that she's not that mobile but do what you can with her to try to have a bit of fun with her. or just talk about the good times.

Try not to get too angry it doesn't help - remember there are people out there not dealing with the loss of a parent but the loss of a husband - the loss of a child.

I know what you mean about what to expect, We talk endlessly about the mechanics if sex and birth but never about death. I find that the professionals tend not to offer information unless you ask directly. IWhen my wife was dying I asked the palliative team what it would be like and they were very helpful - they were great in all sorts of ways actually. McMillan too, they are very helpful but ask them things directly.

You know the old thing about "give mre the strength to chang the things I can change the serenity to accept the things I cant and the wisdom to know the difference"? Thats my top tip. You cant change what will happen, you can change how it will, If you accept her inevitable passing and concentrate on making sure that it is as easy as possible and that she slips away knowing that she is loved surrounded by familly and friends you will be able to feel you have done what you needed to do.

And if you find it difficult to talk to familly and friends about how you feel come on here and talk to us