I know its ayear later Froggy but my husband is 61 and has all the same symptoms as your husband. only thing , he hid it thst it was cancer. he was very mean and angry,etc but i just thought he didnt like me anymore and couldnt figure out why. i know he loves me but he was terribly unhappy most times and took it out on me. Now i find out after leaving him 3 weekes ago he is in icu with stage 4 cancer. i kept asking him about his condition changing but he was lying to me the whole time and wouldnt tell me whats really wrong. im confused and he told the dr dont tell me (his wife) nything about is condition now. i have to hear it from his son.

hi Paddocks. It is just so unreal is it not? You want to believe it is not happening and that all will be well. And deep ineside you you know it will not. You are not alone. My husband was in total remission and then the Non-Hodgkins came back. I wish the consultants had a more positive approach to life! TheMacmillan nurses are wonderful. Do you have any? Get in touch with them unless you already ahve them in the hospital.. I wish you well. F has been unwell since 2015. Please care for yourself-deeply. Love Morag.  You have to be to cope. I hope you have family arround you. Xx

Hi missy dawn. Having just read your post it could be me that wrote it. My husband had advanced prostate cancer and it was over 4 years since diagnosis. He’s hormone treatment, 7 weeks of radiotherapy,  bicalutamide, enzalutamide, steroids and is now having radium 223 every month for 6 months  as the cancer had spread to his hip and spine, it finishes in October. So far nothing really worked for him and like you I feel Helpless. He had lost so much weight and is shrinking before my eyes. He used to be a 6ft tall strong muscular man and now he’s just a shell of his former self. It is so hard to cope with at times; he’s so exhausted, he eats very little and he can’t taste much with all the medication he’s now on. He’s had 3 sessions of the radium 223 and the side effects have been awful. He retired in March this year and he wasn’t too bad then but he’s gone downhill very quickly since .it is painful and so hard to watch his deterioration I feel helpless and frustrated. You just have to take one day at a time and enjoy each day... this isn’t always possible  I know but what other options do we have. Sending you best wishes please feel free to chat to me anytime.

Hi Steve

My partner was diagnosed yesterday with incurable breast cancer.

As I right this I hold back the tears and can't seem to contain myself.  I try not cry around her because she has enough to deal with.  Like you I am in pieces.

We have been together since school.  I am 57 in October and jojo my wife 56.

I have just had news that my partner who is 51 got terminal cancer life expectancy 12 month. Started in kidney but has now spread. I cannot believe it one minute life going along nicely then this news. 

So sorry to hear this. My husband was recently diagnosed with kidney cancer spread to lungs. What treatment have you been offered

We haven't been given anything thing yet as had tumor in his spine so are going to give him another mri scan head to foot. We did at one point decide on oral medication but until the scan has been done again we are waiting to see what route the doctors want to go. It is worrying as scan should be now and then having to wait another two weeks for results before start medication and all the time the big C is inside doing what it wants.  My partners is in lymph nodes behind his heart and on his lungs. 
Are you coping alright? 

It's hard to cope isn't it. My husband's cancer was diagnosed  when he had a scan for pneumonia in July and they saw secondaries in his lungs. They then traced this back to a 7cm tumour in his kidney. A real shock. Unfortunately as he is diabetic and has a large ulcer on his foot they won't give him targeted meds at the moment as these slow down healing of wounds - and cos of his age/ other health conditions they are reluctant to operate. Coundnt agree more about things changing from normal so quickly - husband was due to retire this Dec and all plans have gone belly up. My thoughts are with you at this scary time x

Hi im so sorry your going through this. Life can be so tough sometimes. 

Would you mind sharing what symptoms he had. Im going through the sams at the mo. Ive been referred to urologist for kidney cancer suspected. Im absolutely terrified.