I have just had news that my partner who is 51 got terminal cancer life expectancy 12 month. Started in kidney but has now spread. I cannot believe it one minute life going along nicely then this news. 

So sorry to hear this. My husband was recently diagnosed with kidney cancer spread to lungs. What treatment have you been offered

We haven't been given anything thing yet as had tumor in his spine so are going to give him another mri scan head to foot. We did at one point decide on oral medication but until the scan has been done again we are waiting to see what route the doctors want to go. It is worrying as scan should be now and then having to wait another two weeks for results before start medication and all the time the big C is inside doing what it wants.  My partners is in lymph nodes behind his heart and on his lungs. 
Are you coping alright? 

We haven't been given anything thing yet as had tumor in his spine so are going to give him another mri scan head to foot. We did at one point decide on oral medication but until the scan has been done again we are waiting to see what route the doctors want to go. It is worrying as scan should be now and then having to wait another two weeks for results before start medication and all the time the big C is inside doing what it wants.  My partners is in lymph nodes behind his heart and on his lungs. 
Are you coping alright? 

It's hard to cope isn't it. My husband's cancer was diagnosed  when he had a scan for pneumonia in July and they saw secondaries in his lungs. They then traced this back to a 7cm tumour in his kidney. A real shock. Unfortunately as he is diabetic and has a large ulcer on his foot they won't give him targeted meds at the moment as these slow down healing of wounds - and cos of his age/ other health conditions they are reluctant to operate. Coundnt agree more about things changing from normal so quickly - husband was due to retire this Dec and all plans have gone belly up. My thoughts are with you at this scary time x