Hi there this is a hard one.... But speaking from the heart if you can possibly go back I would urge you to do it.
Not looking on the dark side but things can progress quickly in some cases and you don't want to have any regrets. 
Sounds like your hubby and kids are ok to manage by themselves which is great.
I live in Adelaide (UK born) and would be off like a shot if my mum was diagnosed come hell or high water.
Sorry your sis is reacting the way she is but it's understandable and could be out of fear/frustration..
Hope this helps
Hugs
Kathy x
 

Thanks Kathy,  I think I will wait until Friday as mum has a meeting with her consultant and a PET scan. It will hopefully be decided what treatment plan will be put in place. It will be clearer for me to decide when to go back. It's a waiting game for us. Just want to be there to hug her and give her my support

Coolcoco

Hi Coolcoco,
Sounds like a good plan.  Think scans can take a fortnight for results to come back but at least you will know mums prognosis.  The waiting is a real pain....
Hugs are the best.  Nothing can take their place, words help but hugs....
You will find the folk on this website are truly amazing and of such tremendous support.
Take care
Kathy x
 

Hi

Have just seen your post and cannot add much to Kathy's kind words other than to say 'go with your heart'.

It will probably depend of the results of the scan/tests as to if and when an operation takes place or whether other treatments would be available. Is there any way you can talk directly to your Mum's medical team who may be able to help your decision as to when to come over.

Its difficult being at a distance and am sure your Mum is trying not to worry you any more than necessary and your sister sounds as if she is emotionally fraught (just like you!) and maybe not using her words too carefully in times of stress. Something we can all relate to at times of fear and frustration. Use the forum to offload anytime and make a decision that you will be happy with. Virtual hugs.Jules54

 Hi Jules ,    Thanks for your reply. We have decided as a family to move back to the UK.  Time is precious and you only have one mum. It's a huge move for us as we have been here for 10 years and planned to continue our life here. However I can't live with regrets, I have to be with mum for however long she has. I won't tell her until everything is sorted out herend we have a date.  It's the right decision, Im going with my heart, not my head .

All the best   Xxx