hi, I'm new here. I'm living in Sydney, originally from London. My 65 year old mum who lives in London was diagnosed with bowel cancer T4 N1 M0 in April . She's only managed to have 3 chemos as she has been knocked back wth UTI's and infections. She needs an operation to reduce the tumor (full hysterectomy, colon removed, and parts of her bladder, rectum, cervix and stomach. The tumor is attached to all of these. Had some terrible news today, after spending the last few days in hospital with pulmonary embolisms the CT scan has shown a mass in the liver, secondary bowel cancer. Can anyone relate? Give advice? I visited her 3 weeks ago and it was so wonderful to spend time with her, cook for her, look after her. She doesn't want me coming back until she has the operation but I want to go back now. I got 3 kids here and a full time job, my kids are self sufficient and their dad is great, my boss is understanding so there are no worries about me flying over. My sister is throwing around scathing comments about the burden she has looking after mum and how I'm not helping at all. It's so hard being thousands of miles away and feeling that I'm not helping. Any advice on mums condition and whether I should go back please help
