Hi Joe.  I am so sorry to hear about your wife Jeanine.  I too have secondary breast cancer with mets in most of my bones.  I sometimes think it is harder for our loved ones than it is to have the cancer yourself. There is no way you should feel guilty, your wife is lucky to have someone that cares so much for her.  Have you asked your wife what she would like to do.  If it was me I would not want my husband to give up work or put himself in debt.  He works full time and it gives him something to do and focus on other than me and cancer.  My wish is to live my life as normal as possible and to be at home until the end if it is possible.  It might be better to try and keep things normal as possible for your young daughter too.  I am so sorry.  You are not alone on this sh....tty journey.

Lee x 

Hi Joe.  I am so sorry to hear about your wife Jeanine.  I too have secondary breast cancer with mets in most of my bones.  I sometimes think it is harder for our loved ones than it is to have the cancer yourself. There is no way you should feel guilty, your wife is lucky to have someone that cares so much for her.  Have you asked your wife what she would like to do.  If it was me I would not want my husband to give up work or put himself in debt.  He works full time and it gives him something to do and focus on other than me and cancer.  My wish is to live my life as normal as possible and to be at home until the end if it is possible.  It might be better to try and keep things normal as possible for your young daughter too.  I am so sorry.  You are not alone on this sh....tty journey.

Lee x 

Hi Lee, 

Likewise to you as I said to Ed. 
Thank you very much indeed. That’s so helpful. I’ve also asked Jeanine too as you wisely suggested . 
All the best with your journey too. Cheers. Joe