Hi Joe

You are likely already doing everything possible to look after Jeanine. At the end stages of cancer (Im on palliative care) I would not have the energy to move abroad for treatment. Or to move away till the end. My main goal is to live as normally as possible with my family and friends in familiar surroundings. Jeanine might feel the same way. My wish is to die at home with our local hospice second choice if I cannot receive enough care at home. You have probably been asked to contact your hospice early as there is usually a shortage of beds. Best wishes for you and your family.

Ed

Hi Joe.  I am so sorry to hear about your wife Jeanine.  I too have secondary breast cancer with mets in most of my bones.  I sometimes think it is harder for our loved ones than it is to have the cancer yourself. There is no way you should feel guilty, your wife is lucky to have someone that cares so much for her.  Have you asked your wife what she would like to do.  If it was me I would not want my husband to give up work or put himself in debt.  He works full time and it gives him something to do and focus on other than me and cancer.  My wish is to live my life as normal as possible and to be at home until the end if it is possible.  It might be better to try and keep things normal as possible for your young daughter too.  I am so sorry.  You are not alone on this sh....tty journey.

Lee x 

Hi Ed, I can’t thank you enough for your kind and thoughtful reply. It’s incredibly reassuring to hear. I wasn’t even expecting anyone to as well so really appreciate it.

My ship feels steadier already. I’ve always felt that the most important thing is to just keep things simple and as present as possible  

Sending you and yours  all my best. I hope your journey is a restful as it possibly can be. Thanks again. Joe. 

Hi Lee, 

Likewise to you as I said to Ed. 
Thank you very much indeed. That’s so helpful. I’ve also asked Jeanine too as you wisely suggested . 
All the best with your journey too. Cheers. Joe