Unsure if I want to know husband's prognosis

Hi - my husband has recently been diagnosed with prostate cancer - metastatic- had bone scan & ct scan & we’re waiting to see the oncologist to give us the prognosis & see how far the cancer has gone.

I desperately want to be there with my husband for the oncologist meeting but, although he wants to know, I’m not sure I can face knowing how long he may have in actual years. I feel such a coward - I’m just not sure what to do. Feeling very selfish & frightened.

  • Thank you Linda, that's very kind of you and appreciated.

    love Eddie xx

  • Hi Eddie - just wondered how things are with you? Whatever’s happening I hope you’re doing ok.

    We saw the oncologist today. It’s advanced localised prostate cancer - hormones & radiotherapy treatment. In lymph nodes but not bones. Took your advice & recorded the meeting which has proved very useful & also got copies of everything we could. 
    Treatment feels daunting atm but we’re trying to take one step at a time & not let our imagination run away with things. 

    Love Linda x

  • Hi Linda, it's good to hear from you, and glad you got to see your your oncologist, your diagnosis is very similar to mine, as is your treatment, Linda, i'm sure your aware of possible side effects from hormone therapy, and there are a few, not everyone gets them, most of us just get some of them and they are usually treatable and eventually pass, but 1 fatigue, almost everyone gets, and it's the only one you can prepare for. It will really help your husband in the months to follow if he could get himself as fit as he can, it will lessen the fatigue and help him feel better physically and emotionally. treatment does feel daunting, but you get used to it, and fingers crossed, your lucky with side effects and HT give your cancer a massive blow. Radiotherapy is usually a few months after HT starts to give it time to shrink the cancer, I will have everything crossed for you both.

    Thank you Linda, I am ok, I see my oncologist next Tuesday, as my PSA is rising, my treatment will change. I don't know if I told you but my eldest daughter is also fighting cancer, her 2nd time in 12 years, she's been through radiotherapy and surgery with chemo to follow, when her recurrence was1st diagnosed, the consultant gave her a year, so we swapped oncologists, and with just chemo to  come, her fab team are confident her chemo will cure her, you can imagine how happy I am, my very best wishes for your treatment.

    love Eddie xx