Hello Plumduff

I am sorry its over a day since you posted i dont log in often so I hope you have managed to reach out in person too but in case 

I too have been with my hubby for over 40 years. Its natural to feel scared and angry

And to wonder what is going to happen.

Have you spoken to anyone else how you feel? It is important to look after your own emotional wellbeing at this time.

If you need to talk in middle of night Samaritans are there phone calls are free

Macmillan have a helpline in the day time

And your hubby team should have given you info to ask for help for both of you. If not ask ask ask 

And most importantly you are not selfish this is big and you are a grieving wife processing difficult things

Be kind to yourself 

Sending hugs 

Hi. Thanks for replying  we haven't been given any information about emotional support. I hate seeing him ill and I guess I'm scared of the future. There is a macmillon contact at the hospital so I will start there. I'm feeling a bit more positive today and I'm glad I came on here  

Hi Plumduff

Glad you have come back id say definitely 

Contact Macmillian they helped sort out our finances double quick all over the phone ...might not be your first thought buincluding PIP which due to situation was 2weeks and done and now have carers allowance too

 Less to worry about financially ...

Yes feeling angry at the medical team is understandable in the circumstances and my heart goes out to you both and family

my hubby has incurable cancer too.......its gutting ....we are trying to make the best of every day .....

He has seen a counsellor too which is helpful .....men try to be strong dont they

I struggle at times too and its okay Plumduff let it out 

Sending hugs

I'm glad you're feeling a bit more positive. Definitely contact MacMillan and there may be other local cancer support groups. The hospital should also be able to sign post you to what support agencies are available. Do the hospital have a colorectal team? My nurses are amazing in the team here and I wouldn't have got through without them - they've been 100% supportive to me and my wife as my 'carer'

I'm glad you're feeling a bit more positive. Definitely contact MacMillan and there may be other local cancer support groups. The hospital should also be able to sign post you to what support agencies are available. Do the hospital have a colorectal team? My nurses are amazing in the team here and I wouldn't have got through without them - they've been 100% supportive to me and my wife as my 'carer'