Hi Plumduff, I don’t have any advice but just wanted to comment as what you wrote really resonated with me. My husband was recently diagnosed with bowel cancer and has since had part of his colon removed. I’ve been through so many emotions and one is anger. This is my first post on here so not sure of protocols but just wanted to send you a virtual hug and say I get how you’re feeling and it’s not selfish, it’s really hard being the carer I’m sure you are doing your best for him. Take care. 

Hi Violet. That was my first post and I'm glad now I reached out. I always thought I'd be this great wise tower of strength if john or the kids got really sick and instead I'm wanting him to tell me it'll all be okay, but he can't. I think my anger is really aimed at the doctor who took 13 months to send him for a ct scan by which time it had spread. If she had done something sooner he could have recovered. 

Hi Violet. That was my first post and I'm glad now I reached out. I always thought I'd be this great wise tower of strength if john or the kids got really sick and instead I'm wanting him to tell me it'll all be okay, but he can't. I think my anger is really aimed at the doctor who took 13 months to send him for a ct scan by which time it had spread. If she had done something sooner he could have recovered. 

Hi, I’m so sorry to hear you’ve been let down, heartbreaking that it could have been avoided. My husband was sent home from hospital after being in a week without being told he was anaemic, found out over 4 months later when he had his pre op, then discovered mass in his colon. So angry they cancelled his initial appointment as had it been done the operation he had would not have been as complex and wouldn’t have needed the drainage bag which is causing him a lot of discomfort. Hopefully this will be removed tomorrow. Sending lots of love to you and your family xx