How to support a partner newly diagnosed

Hello. My partner has just been diagnosed with prostrate cancer with a gliesson score of 8. He is to have radiotherapy and hormone treatment. He does tend to look on the black side of everything. I tend to look for positive things on life so am worried how to be supportive in the best way. 

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  • Hello Louise.E and a warm welcome to the forum though sorry you have to be here, I too have prostate cancer, diagnosed 2 years ago and went on hormone therapy HT followed by radiotherapy RT, from my point of view carrying on as close to normal as possible was the best way, and dealing with any issues should they turn up quickly. HT usually starts with a 28 day course of anti androgens ADT a type of HT, followed during or on completion by HT injections 1>3 monthly, with RT starting a few months later. Louise HT can cause side effects which you can deal with IF you get them, though there is one side effect nearly everyone gets and the only one you can prepare for, fatigue, the ADT and HT stop the production of testosterone, hence the fatigue so if you can get your partner fit before fatigue kicks in it will help him a lot through treatment. this was how my partner supported me, going walking, swimming and exercise classes together helped me through treatment physically and as we did most exercise together emotionally too as it was nice to feel we were fighting cancer together. best wishes to you both.

    Eddie

  • Hi Eddiel, 

    Thanks so much for your reply. I am pleased to hear that you were still able to swim, walk,  exercise despite the fatigue.  My partner is fit as he cycles and walks/hikes at the moment so I will certainly share any exercise that he will be able to do. How far into your treatment did fatigue kick in and did it cause you to feel depressed? My partner tends to look on the black side of life so I know I will have a battle to keep his spirits up. Very best wishes for you for you continuing treatment.

    Louise

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  • Hi Eddiel, 

    Thanks so much for your reply. I am pleased to hear that you were still able to swim, walk,  exercise despite the fatigue.  My partner is fit as he cycles and walks/hikes at the moment so I will certainly share any exercise that he will be able to do. How far into your treatment did fatigue kick in and did it cause you to feel depressed? My partner tends to look on the black side of life so I know I will have a battle to keep his spirits up. Very best wishes for you for you continuing treatment.

    Louise

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  • Morning Louise, I was about 5 months into HT when fatigue kicked in, at it's worst walking 50 meters was a struggle, though luckily for me it wasn't as bad as others get it, and pushing myself through exercise with the support and occasional kick up the backside from my partner I was back to my usual self in about 3 months, Louise before my cancer diagnosis my exercise was my allotment and walking the dog, your partners fitness will be a big help to him, I never get depressed, i have my moments, feeling down but they don't last long and now find exercise is just as important for me emotionally as my physical wellbeing, take care.

    Eddie xx

  • Dear Eddie,

    Thanks for your quick reply. All very, very helpful.

    Louise