Hi all I'm 57yrz poor health single parent to 3 children youngest is 11.    Looking for wisdom and thoughts please and it's all more than a bit overwhelmingly..........My 87yr old Mum was given terminal diagnosis 2 weeks ago such a shock.  and has now been moved to nursing home from hospital yesterday.

All That mum Is constantly asking is to go home.  Since Saturday mums refusing to eat or drink as she says she can't as feels sick.

mum has advanced liver and lung cancer is unsteady on her feet and very confused anxious but is now getting cross that she cannot go home.    She is on 1-2-1 care as has been trying to leave th hospital and now the nursing home.

I and feeling so guilty that she is not at home as she trusted me to look after her , and set up lasting power of attorney. I feel like I am letting her down.

 Big reason mum cannot  go home is a family member lived with her at home for most of their life and they themselves are going through chemo and have stated they cannot cope with mum dying at home.

But it's not their house it's mums .....my head is totally fried I'm not meeting  anyone a needs 

feeling like I'm letting mum down and not sure how I will ever be able to be sympathetic to family member if their  care needs increase and they then want me to care for them in the home when they denied that to my mother