Hey Sophie,

I’m currently going through something sort of similar, which is how I found your post. I see that it’s 2 years old, so I wonder what you decided to do and how it all panned out? 
thanks so much!

coral 

Hi Coral,

I am also going through this. Trying to get pregnant while my mum has stage 4. The unknowns are painful as is the future. I know my mum really wants me to be able to have children, I’ve been trying for a while. I know she would be happy for me and although seeing scans and being there for my pregnancy may be really hard for her I do think she would be glad that she could be as it would be special and take the focus away from some of the pain. I am desperate to fall pregnant so she can be part of it with me. I want more than anything for her to meet a little baby I made. I just want her to be there for so much more than that.

i hope you are okay. Here if you want to chat x

Aw thank you for the reply and being so open. I’m so sorry you’re going through such a complicated depth of emotions right now, it really is a lot isn’t it? I can imagine you’re absolutely right and that you being pregnant would be a magical lift for what your mum is currently going through and a shift of focus for things. I’m still in the confusion stage in terms of thinking about/trying for a baby. It’s not something my husband and I were planning right now at all, but then when Mum got diagnosed it suddenly pushed all thoughts of it right to the front of the queue in our brains. It’s such a strange thing to try wrap our heads around! Here if you need to chat too 

cx

Yes you find it reframes life plans and everything feels up in the air. It’s really difficult and only you guys know what is best for you. I truly wish you get as much time as possible with your mum and that you can find joy in the little things. Sending hugs x

My Mum’s sort of still in the early stages in terms of treatment. It’s stage 4 ovarian but she’s still got some chemo to do before a scan to see if the can operate etc to have a clearer image. I will be thinking of you and sending you all my good thoughts and energy and really hope it happens for you. Please keep me posted! It really does feel like such a special and important thing to have your mum with you on your journey to becoming a mum yourself doesn’t it. I never would have thought about it before, but cancer just reframes absolutely everything like you say. 
lots of love cx 

My Mum’s sort of still in the early stages in terms of treatment. It’s stage 4 ovarian but she’s still got some chemo to do before a scan to see if the can operate etc to have a clearer image. I will be thinking of you and sending you all my good thoughts and energy and really hope it happens for you. Please keep me posted! It really does feel like such a special and important thing to have your mum with you on your journey to becoming a mum yourself doesn’t it. I never would have thought about it before, but cancer just reframes absolutely everything like you say. 
lots of love cx