Hi there
Interested to know if anyone has been in a similar position or has any advice.
My mother has terminal cancer and we have no idea how long she has left. I'd guess under a year but it could be a couple of months, or over a year. Who knows.
I am 29 and married, and wondering about accelerating our plans to start a family. In an ideal world both my mum and I would want for her to be around to have a grandchild and experience my pregnancy. It's quite likely that even if I get pregnant quickly she might not be around for the full journey. I'm wondering if it's better for her to experience part of the journey, than none of it at all?
On the one hand I feel like a baby can bring excitement and joy, and a distraction in the dark times. On the other hand I don't know if it'd just make things even harder for her, an extra thing for her to leave behind. Leaving her daughter pregnant or with a newborn could be heart breaking. Or it could give her some happiness knowing we have a new life on the way, and something for us to keep going for.
All of this is on top of how I myself would cope? A first pregnancy, hormones, stress of seeing the decline of my mum, and potentially one day grief, could all prove too much? On the flip side it could give me purpose and a drive to keep going.
If anyone has any similar experiences or advice I'd love to hear it.
Thank you.
