Asbestos mistake

4 weeks ago I sought help to fix a problem in my garage. A family member that I trust advised that we should remove part of a wall that looked like plaster board as part of this fix. I was present while they happily cut into the wall with a small power tool. 

 

Shortly afterwards it was discovered that the wall could have been asbestos insulation boards. In my ignorance I didn't know much about asbestos frustratingly. A test has confirmed that the boards are AIB. I have since made the area safe and had quotes to remove the material properly by qualified companies. 
 

I know the internet is full of good information and in this instance lots of scary information but I think I've read all of it ten times over in relation to this topic. I've spoken to the gp and even had a few sessions with a cognitive therapist in a effort to quieten my brain. Nothing seems to be helping. 
 

I now know how dangerous this incident was and the effects it might have on me. Oddly the family member has shrugged it off and has shown no concerns whatsoever. I pray these effects do not show up for a long time but my brain has decided that I've effectively given myself a death sentence. So much so that since reading all the expected symptoms shortly afterwards my chest has tightened and I constantly find myself checking my ability to breath freely.
 

Does anyone have advice on how to move past this state of mind? It's creating a real problem in my relationships, I'm not sleeping and I find myself distant from the young family I enjoyed only a month ago. 
 

 

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  • Hi Abc 01 did you get better in the end I have nearly exactly same problem of my own doing and putting real strain on family.

  • I'd love to say I've found a resolution but I haven't. It continues to trouble me mentally and physically. I have spoken to the gp, friends and selective family members, all of who says I just need to forget about it. Soon after the event I started to feel symptoms that should take a while to develop. I have sought therapy and they are guiding me to see my situation as health anxiety. It's all very annoying and upsetting. Sorry I've not been able to provide a more positive response. If you come across anything that helps do let me know.

  • Hi Abc01.

    What you're going through is perfectly normal, and I suspect that the lockdown is making everything feel worse.  The chance of a problem developing after a single exposure to asbestos is very low indeed, but there's a difference between your brain knowing this and your gut knowing it.

    I wonder if you might find counselling useful?  Have you considered it?  It's not always easy to get on the NHS, but you might be able to find a private counsellor who can talk to you over Zoom.  It might be worth paying for a few sessions if it will help you come to terms with this. 

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  • Hi Abc01.

    What you're going through is perfectly normal, and I suspect that the lockdown is making everything feel worse.  The chance of a problem developing after a single exposure to asbestos is very low indeed, but there's a difference between your brain knowing this and your gut knowing it.

    I wonder if you might find counselling useful?  Have you considered it?  It's not always easy to get on the NHS, but you might be able to find a private counsellor who can talk to you over Zoom.  It might be worth paying for a few sessions if it will help you come to terms with this. 

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  • Yes I've managed 4 sessions with a therapist over zoom so far. They've been somewhat helpful explaining my symptoms are stress or anxiety related. I don't fully understand how to differentiate between symptoms I've created due to anxiety and those that I fear are real which is where I'm stuck.