Morning, I felt the same, I have 3 adult sons and grand kids. I went for a follow up mammogram my self think its just to double check.

Endeded up 4 hrs with deep core biopsys,

It's hard to tell people, as soon as that word comes out of your mouth people assume the worst. 

My mates were basket cases cried everythime they seen me, I had to be strong for them.

They are fab now I'm just me, unwell at the min. 

Stay positive, not always easy, but with the help of friends and family you will get there. 

Anne 

Hi embop if you tell your friends at least it's all done with it'll give them time to get usto it, my friends and workmates were a bit surprised to start with then treated me just the same as before, good luck with your future what ever you do... Billy 

Thanks Anne 

The thing is, I do feel really positive - i just want to get on and find out what I'm facing and then fight it.  I am not sure how i will cope if people are upset or sad for me - I worry that this will affect me more than the diagnosis! 

I hope you get good news

E 

Thanks Billy. 

My worry is other people's reactions to it - I'm feeling so positive at the moment and i really don't want to be brought crashing down!

I guess after today i will tell people. I just know someone will end up finding out from someone else and then I'll feel bad that they didn't hear from me.  Of all the things for me to be worrying about, eh?!

E 

I may sound harsh here, but I got to the point where I had to say I'm not crying, so why are you, it worked eventually 

You will work it out xxx

It's human nature we worry about others and ourselves, at least if they know they'll be finished crying when you know for sure what's going on. Best wishes... Billy 

Hi

you have enough going on with out announcing 

this to everyone 

you have told who you need to for now 

wait to see what's going to happen 

you sound very level headed which is amazing 

this disease is treated in many different ways 

I was very lucky it was picked up on a routine 

mammogram

i had to have a mastectomy but no other treatment 

in someways it is harder for the people 

that love you 

good luck today 

xx

Hi embop welcome to the forum that has been a massive help to me. Just reading everyone’s experience has been a massive help to me. I have 2 kids aged 8 and 14. I told my 14 year old daughter the day after I had my lumpectomy mainly so I could say I had a lump and now it’s gone but I will need some other treatment which luckily for me was just radiotherapy. Told her I would be totally honest if she had any questions . My 8/year old son I never told anything because I was up and about the next day after surgery and I felt as I didn’t look unwell he wouldn’t understand so didn’t want to scare him. I have been really lucky in that I had 3 weeks off after surgery but to be honest could have gone back sooner and worked through radiotherapy but with shorter hours. Obviously if I had needed chemo I would have had to tell him something but just didn’t see the point. Your positivity will keep you going you sound so strong. Hope it’s gone well today nicky xxx

Hi - I so emphasise with your story. I was diagnosed on Thursday and i think I am still in shock. At the moment I just know I have breast cancer and that I have to go back 04/11 to find out my treatment as they are going to examine my results further. I am also booked for an mri on 12/11. I live in Wales and was told that is the norm to check it's not gone elsewhere. I have reading about it non stop and now scaring myself silly as it doesn't seem that is what others have had. At the moment the mammogram showed a 2 cm lump and I was told it was easily treatable and I wasn't on my way out!! I'm trying not to think about it I have told my family and a close friend but that is it. I am already googling false eyelashes and wigs.  I have also been experiencing shoulder pain for last 6 months and wonder if that is linked.

Hi Embop, 

I'm waiting for biopsy results that look like they might be bad. I've told friends but not family. I'm freelance so money is a major worry but I don't have any duty to tell the people I work for anything either. I've found the wait quite hellish, and some friends are finding it quite hard to comprehend (they just think it'll be fine... of course you don't have cancer...). And I've found that quite frustrating. I also don't want to tell anyone who'll make me feel silly for having worried if it's clear (I know I have a large uterine tumour, and the consultant is rushing my biopsy results as it's worrying - so I feel justified in not being able to 'just put it out of my mind'). 

If it is bad news, I am totally dreading telling my parents. I'm 43 and single, and my dad has prostate cancer and the treatment makes him struggle emotionally with everyday things, so lord know what it'll do. I have the same dilemma - I would like supportive chats but dread being viewed differently and pitied.  I know once I get results, I'll be able to cope, but the waiting is totally horrendous. Hope everything goes well with you! x