Hi Ellaloz,

Try not to worry too much - what will be will be and, no amount of worry will change your mum's diagnosis. It is early days for the antibiotics to kick in yet, but I'm glad to hear that the redness has gone down slightly.

What a pity that her breast swelling wasn't down enough to do the scan today, but I hope that they will be able to do it tomorrow.Your mum must be quite frightened by all that is happening. You will need to remain strong and positive for her. I know that it's not easy. I had to do this when my own mum's breast cancer spread to her brain, bones, liver and lungs.

I'm thinking of your family and praying that you soon find out what the cause of all this is.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

Shes been on oral antibiotics for 3 weeks prior to this think they are scanning it today reguardless as obviously they need to know whats goong on. All the sonsultant said yest was that if she was a young breast feeding woman we could understand but at your age we need to find whats going on as it isnt normal. Xx thanks for all your replies really appreiciate them and i will updat later see what today brings xx

Update already the antibiotics have not worked so sad and some one has forgot to book her in to breast clinic at the hosp so now consultants running round trying to chase that!

Well its been confirmed its the dreaded  big C they did a scan this morning and although there is a huge abcess they have said at her age 57 there is nothing else that can cause it.  She staying in hospital tnite because they want to try and reduce this abcess and then send her home with antibiotics and results on monday 7th i feel so numb and so sick and just so saddend!!!!!! 

Oh Ellaloz,

I am so sorry to hear this, but at least you know what it is now and can move forward to treat it. I lost my own mum to breast cancer and have been coping with it myself for the past 9 years, so I know just how upset you will be feeling at the moment.

Try to put a positive slant on your emotions for your mum's sake. She is probably terrified of the thought of having cancer and is frightened of death. Having her family behind her and being able to talk to you openly about her concerns will help her a lot.  Be there for her, tell her how much you love her, talk to her, don't leave anything unsaid. Help her out with household duties, as she is possibly too tired to do them, make her meals.

Can you attend all her hospital visits with her? This is worth doing, as is drawing up a list of questions for her consultant before each appointment.

I do hope that her care team can find an antibiotic which will reduce her abscess.

Please let us know her diagnosis when she gets her results next Monday.

Thinking of you and hoping for the best.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

Hi Ellaloz,

So sorry to hear that, really wanted it to be just one of those 'weird things' that sometimes happens.

I'll be here on and off through the evening if you want to talk.  But just take it easy on yourself.  It is a lot to take in so don't pressure yourself to get it sorted in your head or anything, just let yourself go through the process and it takes as long as it takes.

We're all here.

LJxx

Well guys its results day today and i am so scared. There is still a part of me thats wondering why this dissapeared after antibiotics for 7 weeks and also how she does actually have a abcess but if he says she has so surely then he must be rite!?!?!? Is my world going to totaly crumble today? X

No....your world will be different, take it all a step at a time...bit by bit.....it's a hell of a lot to take in. Will keep an eye out for your post....xxxxx

ITS NOT CANCER!!!!!! so to answer ny own question yes they do get it wrong!!!!!   

That is fantastic news Ellaloz, so glad to hear it :)

I hope they get to the bottom of what it is soon and get something sorted to help your mum.  Wishing you both good health from here on in!!!

LJx