My wife was in this situation around 3 years ago, and she just over 2 years out from treatment. They found 2 lumps, one on top of the other. At first they thought it was just the one, just weirdly shaped, but after the mri, it turned out to be 2. She too was told on the day, and was slightly blinded.

I really can't say this enough, but take someone with you, so you have a second pair of ears. It's amazing the stuff my wife missed, but luckily i was there too, so i picked more stuff up. It was like we were in 2 separate consultations.

Every niggle you get at this point, you will think the worst. That's more than normal. My wife had put her back out a week prior to her diagnosis, had a sore shoulder, had a horrid cough that i had been nagging her to go see about for months prior and she had awful fatigue running up to all this. From her initial "it looks sinister" diagnosis, to her MRI, i won't lie, i was thinking the worst. After her scans, the cough was allergies, the back was mechanical and the fatigue was stress due to her running around after her elderly parents and holding down a full time job. Yeah, my point, the human body is complex and you can have multiple things going on at once, so try not to fret over the other stuff. Easier said then done, but you'll be tense and stressed, and as such you're more like to get muscle aches during this time with that stress.

Thank you so much for this. 
Its very true, Im so unbelievably tense right now its no wonder everything aches. I keep holding my shoulders really high but cant relax enough to get them to sit normally. Im trying my best to avoid Dr Google but its so bloody hard. The community here is fantastic though, Im so beyond grateful to everyone who has responded. 
How is your wife feeling these days ProfBaw? Hope she is happy and well!!

Its the mornings right now Im finding really really difficult as my emotions are everywhere. By tea time I feel more centered and rational but mornings are just awful, has anyone else experienced this? Was there anything that helped? My GP has given diazepam but I dont want to get used to taking it so scared to even start. 

Big hugs everyone xxxx

Exactly the same for me, except the false tan...lol, (trying to make you smile there), just plodding along like you do and bang, letter and then my world turned upside down and inside out....but look where we are today...I am struggling no two ways about it but I feel better for knowing and knowing what will happen, focus on the going forward....getting my hair cut soon, make me feel better....I hope lol xxxx

Ahh good Ole Bondi Sands may very well have saved my life which is quite comical when you think about it. Its so difficult, life just gets completely turned around.
what are you thinking of getting done? Im going to wait and see if Chemo is confirmed then go a good bit shorter just so its not such a shock xxx

My wife had two tumours in her left breast, the biggest one just slightly over the 5cm mark. The second, which was situated behind the larger one, was around 2.5-3cm. She had 2 lymphs involved too. Her BC was triple+, grade 3. So very aggressive. It was as bad as treatable cancer could get before moving onto the next stage. But the reality is, treatment worked, and she's still cancer free 2 years later. Her chance of reoccurrence is something ridiculous like 3%.

It's also very good that chemo isn't currently nailed on. My wife was told pretty much straight away it was gonna be chemo and radiotherapy.

If you're needing to ask questions, feel free to ask. I can't promise i'll be able to answer them all, but I'll answer what i can.

Thank you so much ProfBaw xx

Hiya, I've had a good inch taken off my length, it was getting quite long. My lovely hairdresser said no drastic decisions on hair styles, which I'm glad she said that. Good tidy up all round, feel better for having a cut & blow...yeah wait and see what happens hun, don't go into overtime thinking by racing ahead.. friend rang me who's been on holiday to see how I was, I managed a conversation without crying, she was so supportive. I said I couldn't have had that conversation last week, I was so tearful. Xxx

Thinking of you RedRuth84 hope this morning goes well x

Hope you are OK hun, thinking of you xxx

Well thats todays MRI done, just waiting on the CT scan now.

Im terrified its spread, I just cant get the fear of that out of my mind right now so Im having to just reaffirm what I know to myself. All I know so far is its a provisional Grade 2 IDC with a DICS in the mix, ER 8/8 and PR 8/8 waiting on HER status. Total tumor size is 6cm but thats the two combined, Axilla appeared normal on US. Urgh this is horrible. Im taking diazepam at the moment just to make that uneasy feeling in my stomach stop and to not feel like Im going to have a panic attack.

How are you lovely? 
How is everyone here today?
Hope your all keeping well. 

Sending big hugs to all xxx

Massive hugs hun, been thinking about you all morning. .I'm OK, back in work, for now...no support off boss woman whatsoever, girls in another office have been lovely and a couple of the guys. All I got off boss was 'alright', then straight into work talk...ffs!! When's your CT scan? Got everything crossed for you...did you get an information booklet from breast cancer nurses, that helped me, that's how I got on here. Try and find someone to talk to and do something you like doing. Xxx

Thank you! All good news. Only affected margin was the skin (but we knew thatand hence the partial reconstruction). No lymph nodes affected. So no more surgery. They anticipate oncotyping dx result this week to determine whether chemo & radiotherapy or radiotherapy only. X

Thank you! All good news. Only affected margin was the skin (but we knew thatand hence the partial reconstruction). No lymph nodes affected. So no more surgery. They anticipate oncotyping dx result this week to determine whether chemo & radiotherapy or radiotherapy only. X

Aww glad it's good news for you, hopefully no chemo xx

Im so happy for you that you had good news!! Yes hopefully you wont need chemo and will be on the road to recovery even faster! Xx