My wife was in this situation around 3 years ago, and she just over 2 years out from treatment. They found 2 lumps, one on top of the other. At first they thought it was just the one, just weirdly shaped, but after the mri, it turned out to be 2. She too was told on the day, and was slightly blinded.

I really can't say this enough, but take someone with you, so you have a second pair of ears. It's amazing the stuff my wife missed, but luckily i was there too, so i picked more stuff up. It was like we were in 2 separate consultations.

Every niggle you get at this point, you will think the worst. That's more than normal. My wife had put her back out a week prior to her diagnosis, had a sore shoulder, had a horrid cough that i had been nagging her to go see about for months prior and she had awful fatigue running up to all this. From her initial "it looks sinister" diagnosis, to her MRI, i won't lie, i was thinking the worst. After her scans, the cough was allergies, the back was mechanical and the fatigue was stress due to her running around after her elderly parents and holding down a full time job. Yeah, my point, the human body is complex and you can have multiple things going on at once, so try not to fret over the other stuff. Easier said then done, but you'll be tense and stressed, and as such you're more like to get muscle aches during this time with that stress.

Thank you so much for this. 
Its very true, Im so unbelievably tense right now its no wonder everything aches. I keep holding my shoulders really high but cant relax enough to get them to sit normally. Im trying my best to avoid Dr Google but its so bloody hard. The community here is fantastic though, Im so beyond grateful to everyone who has responded. 
How is your wife feeling these days ProfBaw? Hope she is happy and well!!

Its the mornings right now Im finding really really difficult as my emotions are everywhere. By tea time I feel more centered and rational but mornings are just awful, has anyone else experienced this? Was there anything that helped? My GP has given diazepam but I dont want to get used to taking it so scared to even start. 

Big hugs everyone xxxx

Morning lovely, my kids are 27 and 24, daughter lives with me, son moved to his dad's back in January. Both taken it ok, my daughter has been amazing and supportive, she's in Rhodes at the moment on holiday and I'm glad she's gone, to enjoy herself. Mornings feel OK if I've managed a sleep, it's evening I find hard, watching tv and mind starts working overtime. Baby steps as my partner says.. just come off the phone from my key worker at the hospital and she was lovely to talk to.  Feeling bit better in myself at this moment in time, but that could change...I think for now tell your son when you are ready to, everyone is different and there's no right or wrong approach, kids are resilient and will be your strength hun. Xxxx

Morning lovely, my kids are 27 and 24, daughter lives with me, son moved to his dad's back in January. Both taken it ok, my daughter has been amazing and supportive, she's in Rhodes at the moment on holiday and I'm glad she's gone, to enjoy herself. Mornings feel OK if I've managed a sleep, it's evening I find hard, watching tv and mind starts working overtime. Baby steps as my partner says.. just come off the phone from my key worker at the hospital and she was lovely to talk to.  Feeling bit better in myself at this moment in time, but that could change...I think for now tell your son when you are ready to, everyone is different and there's no right or wrong approach, kids are resilient and will be your strength hun. Xxxx

So glad to hear your feeling a bit better. Yes baby steps definitely, its all so much to take in. Thats great news your key worker is lovely.
Im not going to say anything to my son until I know whats going on. Same with my parents Im not saying anything to them until I know whats happening. Its so strange though I feel so guilty and like Ive done something really wrong. The feeling of guilt and fear is just massive especially in the mornings.