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Suspected breast cancer with 3 babies under 5

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I am in utter turmoil. I have a 5 year old a 3 year old and a 5 month old whom I am still breast feeding. I have been referred urgently to the breast clinic. I have dimpling and thickening and my nipple is starting to pull inwards.

I am scared I am 38 and have babies who need me being sick isn’t an option. My appointment is on Saturday at first I thought I’m sure it’s nothing but now I’ve read all the symptoms looked at pictures I fear the worst.

From what I have read it looks like IBC which might have already spread. I feel sick, and I can’t stop crying and thinking I’m going to die.

Anyone else with young children been through this? Please help me xx

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    Hi KM,

    I can relate to your worry so much. I found a lump and was diagnosed with breast cancer in June of this year. I have two babies under 5 so I felt exactly the same. I had no idea how I was going to manage it all as I am their main caregiver. 

    My lump was caught early though at Stage 1, so I was very lucky in the fact that I didn’t need chemo and treatment has been ok (just finished radiotherapy). But I did need my mum and husband to step up a bit in terms of what they did for me / the kids but it’s definitely been doable without the kids being affected too much. 
    Can I ask whether you have good support around you? 

    Please try not to panic and look into symptoms too much ( I know it’s impossible not to because I did too but there is still a chance this might not be cancer). But I promise you if it is, you will get through this. Us mums have no choice and I found the craziness of the kids really helped to keep me busy during certain points. 

    This period in limbo waiting is honestly the worst. 

    Really hope you’re ok xxx

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    Hi KM,

    I can relate to your worry so much. I found a lump and was diagnosed with breast cancer in June of this year. I have two babies under 5 so I felt exactly the same. I had no idea how I was going to manage it all as I am their main caregiver. 

    My lump was caught early though at Stage 1, so I was very lucky in the fact that I didn’t need chemo and treatment has been ok (just finished radiotherapy). But I did need my mum and husband to step up a bit in terms of what they did for me / the kids but it’s definitely been doable without the kids being affected too much. 
    Can I ask whether you have good support around you? 

    Please try not to panic and look into symptoms too much ( I know it’s impossible not to because I did too but there is still a chance this might not be cancer). But I promise you if it is, you will get through this. Us mums have no choice and I found the craziness of the kids really helped to keep me busy during certain points. 

    This period in limbo waiting is honestly the worst. 

    Really hope you’re ok xxx

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