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Unhappy about body after BC

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So, long story short I was diagnosed with DCIS (loads of it) in January and had lumpectomy with reduction on the other side. Actually wish I was offered a mastectomy with reconstruction cos that may have been better. Anyway, I Lost a nipple on the affected side. Was feeling pretty low and struggling with my new look. I know it's vain and I should be happy that any cancer is gone but I feel so insecure. It really is about 2 cup sizes different. I can't put any of my clothes on without feeling massively lopsided. It's awful. 

My husband (we only got married last July) doesn't want to see my nipple-less boob and I really have no desire to show him.

I kinda feel like telling him to leave and go and find someone who isn't both physically and emotionally a mess. 

Xx

 

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    Hi Heyho

    So sorry you feel that way about your breasts.  I had bilateral BC and have one breast smaller than the other, I wear 'comfort' bras from Asda and these minimize the difference between the two. I am four years since dx and surgery and I don't even think about my breasts anymore, my scars are a source of pride, and happy to show them off. 

    It also took a couple of years for my breasts to settle down, probably due to radiotherapy.

    Have you thought of getting a nipple tattoo? the 3D ones I have seen are impressive. 

    Hopefully, over time you and your husband will adjust and your breasts will be of less relevance to you both. x

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    Hi Heyho

    So sorry you feel that way about your breasts.  I had bilateral BC and have one breast smaller than the other, I wear 'comfort' bras from Asda and these minimize the difference between the two. I am four years since dx and surgery and I don't even think about my breasts anymore, my scars are a source of pride, and happy to show them off. 

    It also took a couple of years for my breasts to settle down, probably due to radiotherapy.

    Have you thought of getting a nipple tattoo? the 3D ones I have seen are impressive. 

    Hopefully, over time you and your husband will adjust and your breasts will be of less relevance to you both. x

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