My wife was in this exact position a few weeks ago (she starts chemo tomorrow). She's also 51, so the same age as yourself more or less.

Whilst biopsy is the only 100% method for diagnosis of most cancers, these people tend to be  spot on as they have probably seen it many times.

The exact words we were given, do not go expecting it to come back as anything other than malignant. Whilst they do get it wrong sometimes (there are stories out there, the internet over), it's supposedly very rare they get it wrong. But yeah, they do. As silly as it sounds, it's better to expect the worst because that way you aren't left in utter devastation when you're being officially told. Use this time to get your head around it.

I really am not being mean or disrespecting you, because i do dearly hope it does come back as benign, but having been through this ourselves in recent weeks, it is better to just come to terms with a single blow rather than a double whammy if that makes sense.

The day we were officially told was a weird day. Nothing like the doom and gloom you hear about and being sat in some dank and drab room. It was almost as if they were telling us she had merely broken a nail. The doctor and the nurse were excellent. We walked out feeling positive.  Another weird thing, the word "cancer" has never been used once. They've used every other term, but not the word "cancer". That was on a Friday.  Friday evening was fine.  Then BOOM, Saturday happened and we both had our cry.  But picked ourselves up afterwards. It's a rollercoaster of emotions.

I do think that's why they tell people if they can prior to being sat in a room. you're getting it broken to you in stages, so you're a little bit mentally prepared.

My wife was in this exact position a few weeks ago (she starts chemo tomorrow). She's also 51, so the same age as yourself more or less.

Whilst biopsy is the only 100% method for diagnosis of most cancers, these people tend to be  spot on as they have probably seen it many times.

The exact words we were given, do not go expecting it to come back as anything other than malignant. Whilst they do get it wrong sometimes (there are stories out there, the internet over), it's supposedly very rare they get it wrong. But yeah, they do. As silly as it sounds, it's better to expect the worst because that way you aren't left in utter devastation when you're being officially told. Use this time to get your head around it.

I really am not being mean or disrespecting you, because i do dearly hope it does come back as benign, but having been through this ourselves in recent weeks, it is better to just come to terms with a single blow rather than a double whammy if that makes sense.

The day we were officially told was a weird day. Nothing like the doom and gloom you hear about and being sat in some dank and drab room. It was almost as if they were telling us she had merely broken a nail. The doctor and the nurse were excellent. We walked out feeling positive.  Another weird thing, the word "cancer" has never been used once. They've used every other term, but not the word "cancer". That was on a Friday.  Friday evening was fine.  Then BOOM, Saturday happened and we both had our cry.  But picked ourselves up afterwards. It's a rollercoaster of emotions.

I do think that's why they tell people if they can prior to being sat in a room. you're getting it broken to you in stages, so you're a little bit mentally prepared.