Hi Shannon

Sorry to read your news. 

I too got diagnosed with bc in March after my mammogram, I could not feel any lump and had no symptoms. It is hard to get your head around the news and even now I still have days where I think is has this really happened to me. 

When will the results from biopsy be back? 

Happy to answer any questions you may have.

Louise x

Hi Louise 

I get my results on friday the19th nov,after the tests the consultant said id definately have surgery so i will meet with the team on friday too.thank you for taking the time to answer my post,i feel so out of my depth.Pauline x

Hi Pauline

You will do sadly its not the news any of us want to hear. 

Your team will be there for you at the end of the phone. There is this site and also breastcancernow.org is good. Not sure if your on Facebook but there are groups depending which type of bc it is. They are invaluable as people going through the same will totally understand your fears and as you go through the treatment any concerns. 

Can you take someone with you Friday? 

Louise  xx

My wife was in this exact position a few weeks ago (she starts chemo tomorrow). She's also 51, so the same age as yourself more or less.

Whilst biopsy is the only 100% method for diagnosis of most cancers, these people tend to be  spot on as they have probably seen it many times.

The exact words we were given, do not go expecting it to come back as anything other than malignant. Whilst they do get it wrong sometimes (there are stories out there, the internet over), it's supposedly very rare they get it wrong. But yeah, they do. As silly as it sounds, it's better to expect the worst because that way you aren't left in utter devastation when you're being officially told. Use this time to get your head around it.

I really am not being mean or disrespecting you, because i do dearly hope it does come back as benign, but having been through this ourselves in recent weeks, it is better to just come to terms with a single blow rather than a double whammy if that makes sense.

The day we were officially told was a weird day. Nothing like the doom and gloom you hear about and being sat in some dank and drab room. It was almost as if they were telling us she had merely broken a nail. The doctor and the nurse were excellent. We walked out feeling positive.  Another weird thing, the word "cancer" has never been used once. They've used every other term, but not the word "cancer". That was on a Friday.  Friday evening was fine.  Then BOOM, Saturday happened and we both had our cry.  But picked ourselves up afterwards. It's a rollercoaster of emotions.

I do think that's why they tell people if they can prior to being sat in a room. you're getting it broken to you in stages, so you're a little bit mentally prepared.

I am taking my wonderful partner of 18 yrs with me,i have 2 boys and they lost their dad in a horrendous accident when they were little and i will not let them lose me too.The replies to my post have helped me enormously and i thank you from the bottom of my heart.once i know what i am facing tomorrow i will come out fighting and believe it or not i don't have facebook one of the many few.I will let you know what happens tomortow.Pauline x

Hi Pauline

How did you get on yesterday? 

Louise xx

Hi Louise,I was told it is breast cancer and also told it has been caught very early.I will have an op to remove the cancer on the 1st of december and will need radiotherapy after.I was surprisingly calm and the nurses and consultant were absolute angels really kept me calm and took everything slowly and it has now gone in and ive accepted this is really happening.Pauline x

Hi Pauline 

At least now you know and good that it's been caught early. 

Glad your team are good, I have been lucky and had very caring team both breast clinic and oncology. 

Louise xx

Can i ask how you are doing?Did you find it hard to say the word cancer?I don't know why i find it so hard to say.I sit and for a split second i forget all about it and then i remember.Im so pleased you have a good team too we are so lucky to have the nhs.Pauline x