Feeling numb after diagnosis

Following a large tumour being removed from my partners colon on May 1st, he had a diagnosis last Thursday. He was told that the oncologist would call to discuss results next Thursday , however he received a call before that from a cancer care nurse regarding his wound from the op. She then proceeded to tell him that his tumour had been staged as a t4 n2 locally advanced . She could not explain really anything about it just that the oncologist would explain next week and tell him about survival rates and treatment.

we went straight on to the internet and are now seeing that he had only about 10% chance of surviving 5 years. We are in total shock. A diagnosis straight out of the blue and our minds in complete mush. A week seems a long time to wait to speak to the oncologist and the constant surging the net for answers 

Thank you

  • Hi Billy,

    Forgot to say I hope your results are good when they come back. 

    Almost too tired to type now. Should sleep well tonight.

    Managed not to fall in... Lots of people swimming in the river - bit of a shock. Not something I've  witnessed before. They must be desperate given the leisure pools are all closed and it's hot. 

    No peace for the river fish tonight!

    Don't worry, Lisa... I'd throw the fish straight back in if I did go fishing. Haven't been fishing for a long time. x

     

  • Hi Lisa,

    Saying goodnight to you... really hope you do get some sleep.

    Sorry it's been such a hard day for you.

    So hoping tomorrow goes well for you and hubby.

    Take carexx

  • Thank you so much I really appreciate it. I know you want to be discreet on here so I'm going to call you hope Cos you've been a ray of sweetness in these past few days 

    lots of hugs honey x

     

  • Hope you haven't counted them you'll be two short tomorrow, be nice and fresh for breakfast probably shallow fry. Yum yum.

    Hope you get to sleep tonight or you'll struggle tomorrow when you get phone call. Best wishes and plenty of people on your side. 

    Billy xx 

  • Thank you billy . You are a star keeping so upbeat. 
    mum not hopeful about tomorrow but at least we will know

    keep you updated

    thanks for being there 

    Lisa x

     

  • Hello Lisa,

                  l am disappointed to hear that your conversation with the nurse was not as much help as l would have hoped,but here you are ,one half wanting tomorrow to come ,whilst the other wishing the opposite.So l am hoping that your news will not be as bad as you have been thinking.Looking back ,l remember thinking of all the questions l was going to ask ,and ended up just stating l was going to gve treatment my best shot and lets just crack on asap. l remember thinking afterwards l should have switched my phone on to record and l could have listened to what was said a few days later,because it all washed over me like an ebbing tide on the day

                                                                            l hope you have a positive consultation tomorrow and sleep finds you quietly tonight,

                                            David

     

  • Morning 

    slept till 3 and the awake as usual. Well not long now and dreading it . Reality bites and not the stuff rolling around

    thank you again everyone 

    Lisa 

  • Morning Lisa. 

    You haven't said what time appointment is. Everyone here is on tender hooks waiting just the same as you. 

    Glad you slept some of the night. 3 o'clock isn't bad depending on when you went to bed.

    Remember your family is all on your partners side same as you you'll be in plenty thoughts and prayers this morning. 

    Best wishes. 

    Billy xx 

  • Thank you Lisa! Hope is good.

    So glad you got a few hours sleep...

    I just got back from another walk. Got a friend up to look for some baby green woodpeckers. Have had a magical time watching two very young ones calling to each other from the top of some firs then flying between trees. Still pied with just a flash of red on the head. Only fledged recently.

    Hope that's a good omen for today!

    We're all rooting for you and thinking of you.

    Lots of hugsxx

    Btw don't feel you have to post anything later today. You might need time just for you and hubby! 

  • Hope your results are good today too, Billyx