Hi sadbutsmiling, have you been with your mum to hospital, has anyone talked about treatment options. At fifteen you should be able to look after yourself and help your mum if she needs it if you're mum is bad get macmillan or Marie curie to come to help, have a word with school or college to see if they can help with gcse options. Thares plenty of options on the go and having cancer doesn't mean she's going to die.. Billy 

Hello love,

im so sorry your going through this nightmare. So it's just you and mum? Cancer doesn't necessarily mean a death sentence, do you know what her options are? Are you able to talk to her frankly? 

A good start would be to pour out your feelings to a Macmillan nurse, let them know exactly how overwhelmed you feel by it all....

come and chat here anytime love....xx

hi billy, no she won't let me as she knows i'll only get upset. no. yeah i know i can but it's just scary. i've emailed and so has my mum just asking for support. i know  but i'm just overthinking everything 

yeah we've been alone since i was 18months. i know, no she's keeping a lot from me as she doesn't want to upset. yeah i've tried to talk but she tries to stop the conversation. 

thank you xx

Her mothers instincts are kicking in and she trying to protect you. But you must try and talk to someone , does your school have a councillor? Or is there a nice neighbour you could talk to? You can't go through this without off loading how your feeling.....xxx

yeah we my school has a councillor, with just moving house we don't know any of our neighbors. i'm scared to talk to people especially in school as i'm scared they'll judge me for being overdramatic because i know my mums not the only one with cancer and there's people younger who are going through much worse too xx

Your certainly not being overly dramatic love. Cancer is a big deal, for those suffering from it and the family. By keeping quiet your bottling your feelings, and that's not healthy. I can totally understand your mum trying to protect you, that's her job. So take a deep breath and make contact with the schools councillor, you will feel utter relief once you do, just saying how you feel out loud will help you get to grips with what's happening..... ️ ️ 

thank you, i'm worried for her as well as she's not talking to anyone about it and is trying to act like nothing is happening. thank you ️ ️

Hi,

So sorry to read about your Mum. Others have mentioned MacMillan and Marie Curie. You could check that your Mum’s GP has referred her to them. This should be done automatically but sometimes people slip through the net.

It’s going to be hard but you need to talk to your Mum about your worries. Make sure the school is fully aware of the situation to enable them to make adjustments - the last thing you need is being chased for non-attendance or poor performance because they are unaware of what you’re going through. 

Like Billy says, a cancer diagnosis is bad but many of us survive cancer so please don’t give up hope!

Best wishes

Dave

Hello sadbutsmiling i have a daughter who is your age well shes 14 i was diagnosed with cancer last march i found it really hard to talk to her about my cancer i kept it from her for months because it just broke my heart to say the words to her and im an adult but people young or old hear the word cancer and they just assume its a death sentence but thats not always the case my sister had cancer 14 years ago and is still here unfortunately some people do die from it but alot more people are living with it because treatments have got alot better you need to tell your mam how your feeling she might be able to ease your fears by telling you whats going on i agree with marlyn its her motherly instincts tryin to protect you and u really should talk to your school to let them know whats going on ur only 15 years old you should not be left to deal with this on your own they wont think your been over dramatic you need some support please let us all know how you get on we are always here for you xx