Hello from a new member of the family

Today I joined the army of people sitting around different waiting areas, carrying my belongings and my "gown" as we went through the various tests to find out if we had breast cancer. Some were, like me, totally new to the routine, others were at various stages in the journey and one lady was given the great news that she was still clear of her cancer five years since her treatment ended. 

I already suspected that my symptoms of strange lump, pain and puckering were caused by the big C, so I wasn't surprised when the lovely consultant showed me the first ultra sound scan with its big black area where there should have been breast tissue, saying it was pretty definitely cancer, and proceeded to tell me what would happen next. 

What did happen over the next two hours was quite unpleasant and painful and I now have a 12 day wait to find out exactly what we are looking at regarding type of cancer and treatment. Strangely enough I have no feelings of fear for the future, although twenty years ago I had a scare that saw me fearful and tearful, now I'm an old dear I'm just cheesed off that I will have quite a lot more unpleasantness to face. I'm one of those boring people who don't often get ill, so when I do I'm the patient from hell, or so my daughter tells me. I admit to being grumpy if I'm ill for more than two days. 

I have read a lot of the posts, here, during my wait to go for the tests, feeling like an outsider looking in, but now I'm in, too!   I suspect future posts from me will be less upbeat, but I would like to record my experiences here, and to share others' experiences, too.

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  • Hi,

    I am new to the group and BC. I was diagnosed in July. I had  a partial mastectomy with reconstruction 2 weeks ago. Yesterday I went back for the results only to be told that my margins weren’t all clear and I have to go back in on Friday for another op to remove more tissue. I’m also waiting for results of Oncotype test so decide what my treatment plan is. I haven’t been frightened or fazed by anything so far but yesterday I came away really *** off! My wound has just healed and now they are going to re open it. But hey ho. I’m 48 and like you have always been healthy and am crap at being ill. I do hope you don’t become down beat x

  • Hi Cazrosie - I am currently being offered a lumpectomy (assume same as partial mastectomy) or a mastectomy + reconstruction for a 3.5cm globular tumour. With the lumpectomy they indicated I would go from a B to an A cupsize so offered me a breast reduction on the good side. Size is important to me so I would rather go for a reconstruction to get symetry and also avoid touching the good breast? Are you happy to tell me about your situation? Did you have the same type of cancer? How much of the breast did they have to take? What type of reconstruction did you have (via liposuction or LIDAP)? Di they do the reconstruction at the same time or later after radiotherapy? I am sorry your margins were not clear - did you go for a further lumpectomy? - they suggested that this may well be the case with me due to the globular cancer type that I have. Were you - are you happy with your results? I do hope all went well with you after this post - best wishes Karen

  • Happy Friday, Caroline!

    Sam, apologies! I should have realised that with all your cycling and exercising, that you would already have the body of a supermodel.

    xxx

  • Hi Christine, Caroline & Sam,

    Hope you are all ok and behaving yourselves? Thank you for remembering today x

    The result of the 2nd biopsy didn't reveal anything sinister. Just breast tissue, all is 'normal' I hear. Huh! I think I can safely say I'm anything but normal :laugh:

    So 25th Jan, I see Oncology to sign chemo consent form, have picc line put in, and have a chat about possible hair loss, nausea, etc...

    BCN said chemo usually starts 2 wks after 25th Jan. It's all of a sudden becoming very real and I must say a little scary. 

    Take care ladies

    Much love

    Vee xxx

     

  • Hi Vee,

    that is great news. Sam is your lady to give you the low down on chemo. But we are here to support! 
    Well done on today xx

  • Morning ladies,

    I hope all is well with you. 

    I forgot to mention that an MRI was booked on the 14th Jan, which I didn't expect to hear from them for at least 1-2 weeks away. However, on 17th Jan, I got a short notice cancellation, who asked me to attend the same day. After the MRI, I asked the radiographer how long the results will be. He told me it wouldn't be long. 

    I missed 2 calls from the hospital yesterday, as I was shattered through not sleeping properly the night  before. I did call the hospital back on the number they called me on, but it comes back as invalid. I'm worried and anxious as to why the hospital would call me 4 days after a scan if it wasn't urgent. On the other hand, the hospital didn't leave a message for me to contact them! As its the weekend, I doubt I'll hear anything until Monday. Maybe it was something to do with my Oncology app on 25th Jan. Who knows?

    Take care ladies 

    Much love

    Vee xx

  • Hi Vee, 

    I work in a hospital and know that the number that they call out on isn't one you can redial. Maybe give a call to your bcn and ask if they know anything about the missed call. And like you said, if it was urgent they would have maybe left a message with a number you could call back. 
    Caroline xx

  • Hi Vee,

    Hoping all goes well today,

    Christine xxx

  • Hi Christine x

    Hope all is well with you 

    Thank you

    Vee xx

  • Hi Vee

    Long time no hear!  How are you and what is happening?

    This isn't a demand for info if you don't want to discuss it, I'm just a bit worried about our new friend.

    love

    Christine xxx

  • Hey Christine, ladies, 

    I thought you had forgotten about me?

    How is everyone getting on? I've had a lot going on. Lots of appointments. 

    I've had my first treatment. My Chemo was originally for an hour, but I had to have a cannula in the back of my hand. Because of this, it lasted 2 hours. (All explained below).

    I was supposed to have a port fitted in my inner upper left arm, as the lump is on my right and the nurse wanted to steer away from the breast where I might need an op to remove sentinel nodes. After 4 attempts, the nurse apologised and said she would have to try the right arm, and she still couldn't get it in. I ended up with 2 badly bruised arms and nowt to show for it. The nurse ordered a chest port, which  should be fitted soon (I hope ) in time for my next round.

    All went well after all Chemo was administered, I didn't feel a thing. While waiting for my hubby to pick me up, I felt an immense wave of sickness threatening to splurge out and embarass me in front of all the new found friendly crew (patients and nurses) I'd met and warmed to. But I held it in like a good-un. Everyone was asking "are you alright Vee"? I didnt turn around when I headed for the door on my departure, I could only raise my my hand above my head for a quick wave. 

    By the time I got home, I felt so sick, I only had some water, put my pj's on and crawled into bed, and there I stayed until my bladder could take no more. I didn't even wash the conditioner out from having the cold cap. The nausea has continued since  Chemo, but not as bad. Today, I actually felt somewhat human enough to take hubby to dialysis, put washing on after  changing all bed linen, put dried clothes away, washed dishes and put them away cleaned rest of house, washed the car, did homemade soup for lunch and vacuumed. 

    I have never felt so ill in my whole life! When I was in bed feeling sorry for myself, I could imagine everything piling up and getting out of hand, so I used the little energy I had to sort stuff out. Someone please tell me it gets a little better. 

    Take care ladies

    Much love  

    Vee xxx

     

  • Hi,

    I'm sorry, I can't tell you anything about chemo as I was too old to benefit from it.  

    You sound as if you are doing too much, though.  Wash the car??? Mine has green mould on the passenger side cos I never see it. I park right outside my front door up against the garden fence.I'm sure you are supposed to rest after chemo!  The search for veins isn't something I have experienced either, mine are only too eager to gush forth when required, and even when not required some times.

    it's good to hear you still sound to be facing it as cheerfully as could possibly be expected. I hope Sam, the Yorkshire Wonder Woman gets in touch because she has had the lot and can tell you much more than I can. It must be bearable because she still manages to sound cheerful, although that could be the old Yorkshire grit we hear about. I'm a Lancastrian myself and I think we're supposed to be pretty gritty, too.

    Take care, I know it must be hard to let things go, but I would say rest is more important than a clean car

    love

    Christine xx 

     

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  • Hi,

    I'm sorry, I can't tell you anything about chemo as I was too old to benefit from it.  

    You sound as if you are doing too much, though.  Wash the car??? Mine has green mould on the passenger side cos I never see it. I park right outside my front door up against the garden fence.I'm sure you are supposed to rest after chemo!  The search for veins isn't something I have experienced either, mine are only too eager to gush forth when required, and even when not required some times.

    it's good to hear you still sound to be facing it as cheerfully as could possibly be expected. I hope Sam, the Yorkshire Wonder Woman gets in touch because she has had the lot and can tell you much more than I can. It must be bearable because she still manages to sound cheerful, although that could be the old Yorkshire grit we hear about. I'm a Lancastrian myself and I think we're supposed to be pretty gritty, too.

    Take care, I know it must be hard to let things go, but I would say rest is more important than a clean car

    love

    Christine xx 

     

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