Help and advice

Just a few hours ago my lovely 70 year old mum was diagnosed with stage 4b lung cancer,spread to lymph nodes and liver

we are all so shocked and devastated beyond words my poor dad looked so sad and never said a word 

what does this mean for my poor mum?

they said she be operated on now they took bloods and said the markers on the bloods would determine their plan of treatment?

what time scale is my mum looking at?can she fight it and stay around a long time?

 

i don’t want her to suffer.please any advice would be great

  • Welcome to the forum Rolozuese, although I'm sorry for the reason you are posting.

    We have some information about lung cancer and lung cancer staging on our website that I hope will help you at this time but do give our cancer nurses a call if you would like to have a chat with them about your mum's diagnosis. The number to call is 0808 800 4040 and their phone lines are open Monday - Friday between 9a.m - 5p.m.

    Best wishes to you both,

    Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator

  • Hi Rolozuese,

    Sorry you've found yourself here, but I hope you find this place as helpful and supportive as I have.

    Really sorry about the news of your mum, and I can imagine your dad's face from the twice my mum has been diagnosed with cancer.

    I imagine you already realise that none of us can tell you timeframes for your mum, even her medical team may struggle to answer that at this time, but it is often something that people feel would help them to know.

    All I can really say is that, cancer aside, any one of us could die tomorrow.  Sounds trite I know, but it's true.  So my advice really would be to focus on the quality of the time you have with your mum rather than trying to guess how long you will have with her.  Even when doctors do get to a stage of venturing a timeframe it won't be accurate enough to go by.  If you focus on it and end up with more time then great, but if you end up with less time you may not have done the things you wanted to do, it's a risk.

    Make the time count as best you can.

    Big virtual hugs to you and your family, hopefully you hear about a treatment plan soon, the early days are always difficult with waiting for news.

    Best wishes,

    LJx