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Hi all,

well today has been a shock to the system to say the least. Been having breast ache for a number of weeks so went to doctors who said she couldn’t feel anything and not to worry yet due to being breast they have to refer. So today I went with my mum ( im 38 yet still need mum) thinking worse case scenario it’s a cyst to be then scanned and had a mammogram then a biopsy in 5 areas and then went into Dr rooms and straight away knew wasn’t good as saw the McMillan nurse. I was told that I have a number of abnormal growths and 90% sure it’s cancer.. both mum and I broke down in tears but they couldn’t give me any more info until next Friday when the biopsy results come in. I am so scared and don’t know what to expect. I’m a single mum to a 5 year old and heads a shed! Any help or advice would be appreciated :-) 

  • Offline in reply to petrgn

    So pleased to hear you're ok, thanks for taking the time to check in and keep us updated! And thank you so much for the reassurance, I'm really glad it all went well. You're right, that's the cancer gone and you're now on to the next stage of making sure it doesn't come back. I hope you heal soon, take it easy and let us know how you're doing over the next few days xxx

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    Hi Petrgn,

    I am delighted to hear that your lumpectomy and lymph node clearance went well. The drain won't be there for long and, you'll find it much easier when you don't have to carry this around with you.

    Kind regards,

    Jolamine xx

  • Offline in reply to Marlyn

    Just saw this, thanks Marlyn, I guess you're the reason I got the friend request.  Wish I'd been able to talk to her before she started chemo as I could have let her know how lovely the treatment bay over here is ahead of time.  Hopefully I'll be able to offer her some support.

    It is hard over here as anything I've been to where there are other ladies with breast cancer there is a huge age gap even from me at 42.  In fact a lot of people that go along have been cancer free for a long time so aren't up to date with the new treatments even.  And, much as I love associating with people of all ages (I do tend towards elderly people), obviously age does affect your experience of breast cancer and treatment, so it is always helpful to have some contacts around the same age.  The lack of people near my age is the only thing that has left me feeling at all isolated, so glad I've had you all on here to counteract that!

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    Hi TwinTwo,

    It is great to hear from you. We have been wondering how you were getting on and, had assumed rightly or wrongly, that your silence indicated that you were having a tough time.

    It must be difficult dealing with people who are so much older than you.

    Just to say that we are still rooting for you and wishing you well at the end of your treatment. Don't forget that we are always here for you.

    Kind regards,

    Jolamine xx

  • Offline in reply to petrgn

    Petgrn,

    your a star! Well done...cancer gone.....fantastic.....rest up xxxx

  • Offline in reply to Marlyn

    Thank you so much Marlyn!!  

    Thats the first part of my journey.  Now the famous ‘two week wait’.

    We are all together in this xxxxxx

  • Offline in reply to petrgn

    Jolamine, 

    Thank you so much because bag is worst part.  But sire today because exercising arms.  

    xxxxx

  • Offline in reply to petrgn

    That should say....sore.....but I expect you knew that xx

  • Offline in reply to Jolamine

    Thanks so much Jolamine, I have missed the support on here, it was a combination of good and not so good things that kept me away for a bit.  But the not so good ones I'm adapting to and the good one (being back at work properly) isn't in the mix for the next few months unfortunately.  Thankfully the volunteering I do for a charity over here can be done remotely and as and when I'm up to it so I've asked to be sent a load of stuff so I can manage to be of some use to someone (well animals really) at least :D

    I love talking to people a lot older than me, but of course with cancer age does present different issues, even with treatment age presents different issues, so we talk about everything but the cancer usually.  It is great on here to talk about cancer with people across all ages, but obviously there is that extra benefit of some being closer to your age.

    I swear the biggest annoyance with this illness, well more the treatment really, is how useless it can make me feel, like I'm not contributing to the world anymore, and I know it's not our fault, we can't help it and we deserve to rest up etc. but mental wellbeing wise I need to be doing something useful for someone, even if just the odd little thing.  So I'm really blessed to have the environment I have here.

    And I plan on getting back to hopefully supporting the 'newbies' on here too, and the not so 'newbies'.

    Love you all, xx

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