Hi there Stuart,

Sorry that you've found yourself joining us on here.  I'm a breast cancer person so in a different type of boat to you but there will likely be some similarities in treatment etc. and all of us have been in the situation you're currently in having just been diagnosed.

If it helps any the initial days are some of the toughest, especially the telling other people about it.  Once treatment gets underway it can start to feel quite procedural and that can help in some ways, especially as you know something is being done.

You seem really determined which is great, a positive attitude towards beating it is definitely going to hold you in good stead and it can make going through treatment easier too.

What kind of support do you have around you?

LJ

Hi, I have my wife we have been together for 45 years and my two children who are 39 and 42 . But I do not feel I should tell the children now. And I worry about my wife taking to much strain of this on her.

I feel for you. My partner, who I adore, is 62 and has lung cancer, Stage 3c. Twin Two is right, this is a very hard time and it does feel better once you get a treatment plan. Cancer is no longer an automatic death sentence; more of a bloody nuisance if you ask me! You'll probably have more tests if you havent already had the full set, and then you will discuss the options for treatment.

My partner has parents in their nineties and and 2 adult children in their twenties. We also worred about how to tell them-made worse by the fact that his first wife, the children's mother died of lung cancer. We decided to wait until he had his treatment plan in place. He was then able to say that he had a tumour on his lung but that he was in treatment and feeling positive about the future. Of course its a personal decision, but if you dont tell family,  it may cause problems further down the line. Once we told ours, they took it better than we expected and we felt hugely relieved to have got it over with.

There will be other non-family support around for both of you, such as Macmillan, this forum or perhaps a Maggie's place or similar and we have found this really helpful. Do take advantage.

Good luck.

I feel for you. My partner, who I adore, is 62 and has lung cancer, Stage 3c. Twin Two is right, this is a very hard time and it does feel better once you get a treatment plan. Cancer is no longer an automatic death sentence; more of a bloody nuisance if you ask me! You'll probably have more tests if you havent already had the full set, and then you will discuss the options for treatment.

My partner has parents in their nineties and and 2 adult children in their twenties. We also worred about how to tell them-made worse by the fact that his first wife, the children's mother died of lung cancer. We decided to wait until he had his treatment plan in place. He was then able to say that he had a tumour on his lung but that he was in treatment and feeling positive about the future. Of course its a personal decision, but if you dont tell family,  it may cause problems further down the line. Once we told ours, they took it better than we expected and we felt hugely relieved to have got it over with.

There will be other non-family support around for both of you, such as Macmillan, this forum or perhaps a Maggie's place or similar and we have found this really helpful. Do take advantage.

Good luck.