Not coping with stoma bag

I’m 39 years old and on 20th Aug I was told I had bowel cancer. I’ve just returned home from hospital after lower anterior operation and have a bag, which I pray can be reserved In a year.  I’m really struggling with my stoma, even looking at it makes me feel ill. I’m wondering how I’m ever going to cope.  I absolutely despise it all and changing my bag is just horrifying. My husband has had to change it for me since we’ve got home and I just feel humiliated by the whole thing.  Will it ever get easier? Will I be able to cope on my own and accept it? Just wondering if anyone else felt like this! 

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  • Hi I am 44 and I’m 2019 I was told I had bowel cancer and within a week had a stoma bag on and in a month xenotransplantation radiotherapy then nothing for 6 months I had the cancer removed along with other parts as cancer was on them too the stoma bag cause great psychological effect eventually doing myself made me have some control over this but I could bear anyone seeing feeling etc now 2 years I had the bag off and this been hard as bowel is so different now and had a massive infection so spent 16 days in two spell in hospital Overall please talk to the stoma team they can help you though those fears also see if can have counselling that helped understand the why me really Good luck with your journey your doing amazing and talk step by step gain some control it will help that fight needed
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  • Hi I am 44 and I’m 2019 I was told I had bowel cancer and within a week had a stoma bag on and in a month xenotransplantation radiotherapy then nothing for 6 months I had the cancer removed along with other parts as cancer was on them too the stoma bag cause great psychological effect eventually doing myself made me have some control over this but I could bear anyone seeing feeling etc now 2 years I had the bag off and this been hard as bowel is so different now and had a massive infection so spent 16 days in two spell in hospital Overall please talk to the stoma team they can help you though those fears also see if can have counselling that helped understand the why me really Good luck with your journey your doing amazing and talk step by step gain some control it will help that fight needed
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