Not coping with stoma bag

I’m 39 years old and on 20th Aug I was told I had bowel cancer. I’ve just returned home from hospital after lower anterior operation and have a bag, which I pray can be reserved In a year.  I’m really struggling with my stoma, even looking at it makes me feel ill. I’m wondering how I’m ever going to cope.  I absolutely despise it all and changing my bag is just horrifying. My husband has had to change it for me since we’ve got home and I just feel humiliated by the whole thing.  Will it ever get easier? Will I be able to cope on my own and accept it? Just wondering if anyone else felt like this! 

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  • hi, Alex just seen your post, i know it's a bit late in the day to reply and you've probably got used to it now or better luck had it reversed hopefully. just wanted to say i was exactly the same as you when i first had mine done and it was none reversible, i was 40 at the time and i was just glad i was going to live i had 3 youngish wonderful children who i wanted to seed grow into wonderful human beings which thank God they all have and I'm walking one of my daughters down the aisle next year, anyway back to the point. i hated it but as time goes by you get used to changing it and it just becomes routine and i found it quicker than when i went normally lol now i don't even think about it. it's just every day routine. over time you'll get to know what you can or can't eat and eventually everything settles down, hope this as helped Alex stay safe and all the best Geoff.

  • Congratulations I look at it this way its just another way of going to the toilet, I've had upsetting times with it believe me but you just have to get on with it.   Lot people in the churchyard would love to be here with a ileostomy I bet good on you have fab day yours sincerely jayne Williams 

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  • Congratulations I look at it this way its just another way of going to the toilet, I've had upsetting times with it believe me but you just have to get on with it.   Lot people in the churchyard would love to be here with a ileostomy I bet good on you have fab day yours sincerely jayne Williams 

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