Not coping with stoma bag

I’m 39 years old and on 20th Aug I was told I had bowel cancer. I’ve just returned home from hospital after lower anterior operation and have a bag, which I pray can be reserved In a year.  I’m really struggling with my stoma, even looking at it makes me feel ill. I’m wondering how I’m ever going to cope.  I absolutely despise it all and changing my bag is just horrifying. My husband has had to change it for me since we’ve got home and I just feel humiliated by the whole thing.  Will it ever get easier? Will I be able to cope on my own and accept it? Just wondering if anyone else felt like this! 

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  • Really sorry yr having problems with yr stoma.I'm 46 and got diagnosed with anal cancer after 6 months of going  to the doctors being put on antibiotics as I was constantly told I had a cysts  just inside my vigana finally sent for scans but only when I broke down in the doctors surgery telling the nurse in can not carry on wit has the mess by that I mean feases coming through my vigana I was in such a state, then the bad news it's terminal cancer it had spread with in 5 days of that news I had the stoma bag I feel I had to cope as it was part of me now like yourself i didn't want to look at it I didn't want to believe it everything changes yr life changes but the worries don't,simple things worry me going out to eat is the bag going to start working while I'm out what clothes to wear to hide it,is there toilet facilities and it just goes on but don't be put off it only gets better but like everything it takes time,everytime I change it just remind yourself it's saving your life hope this has helped you a little take care X 

     

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  • Really sorry yr having problems with yr stoma.I'm 46 and got diagnosed with anal cancer after 6 months of going  to the doctors being put on antibiotics as I was constantly told I had a cysts  just inside my vigana finally sent for scans but only when I broke down in the doctors surgery telling the nurse in can not carry on wit has the mess by that I mean feases coming through my vigana I was in such a state, then the bad news it's terminal cancer it had spread with in 5 days of that news I had the stoma bag I feel I had to cope as it was part of me now like yourself i didn't want to look at it I didn't want to believe it everything changes yr life changes but the worries don't,simple things worry me going out to eat is the bag going to start working while I'm out what clothes to wear to hide it,is there toilet facilities and it just goes on but don't be put off it only gets better but like everything it takes time,everytime I change it just remind yourself it's saving your life hope this has helped you a little take care X 

     

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