Hi there ...

Your not alone, there's lots of us breast lasses on here ... l had a mastectomy july last year ... and for me, the worst part was were you are now .. the waiting, and the unknown .. it's overwhelming. . All the "what ifs" creep in .. and mood swings high and positive, to low and wanting to cry ... 

Now saying that .. I can look back over those 14 months, and it's a bit like a dream now ... the easiest part for me was the op itself .. there was a lot less pain then I'd imagined in my head ... and I had a grade 3 lump ... there's so many of us, and they are all different stages, and different treatments .. but wer all here kicking cancers butt right down the road ... 

I've got a tee shirt with a lass with a lovely pair of pink boxing gloves on, saying cancer touched my boob , so I kicked it's *** ... yes there's highs and lows ... it's not a walk in the park, but Brest cancers come a long way ... so you get your boxing gloves on, get in the ring with us lot ...  and punch it strait back. . The more positive you are , I think that scares cancer, coz it doesn't want you strong, it wants you to crumble ..  the best advice I got at the start of my treatment from my daughter in law. . She said .. no more "what ifs" live in the day... take every problem as and when it comes up.. and well do it together ... and she was there every step of the way ...

So hold on to anyone who wants to walk this journey with you ... share tears, hugs, and admit it's scary .. and get those boxing gloves on ... always here if you want a chat .. hopefully some other Brest lasses will see your thread ... [@rileyroo]‍  [@Jbains]‍  [@Sandra123]‍  ... and others .. your in good company on here .. and we know how you feel, we've been there ... sending you a vertual hug ...  Chrissie x

Hi Queengill,

I was in the same boat as you, the radiologist was able to confidently tell me I had cancer (at least stage 2 at that point) without needing the biopsy results.  The biopsy results were then more a formality and for staging as they showed it had definitely already spread and so was stage 3b (as the radiologist said he expected).  In the end they didn't biopsy my right breast but they did 4 different scans on it before deciding they were happy that the lumps in it weren't cancerous.  Sometimes they can tell from the look on different scans, other times they need the biopsy to confirm.

It is frightening, upsetting, and all sorts of things go through your head at this time.  So many people on this forum have also been there, and I hope you find their support as invaluable as I have.  We've all had that worry and know how it robs you each day.  My only advice in that regard is that the waits are by far the worst.  Once you get into your treatment regime life becomes a bit more procedural and at least you know what is happening.  So, distract yourself with plans if you can, preferably plans that require your focus to see them through.

Thankfully it does all end up passing quickly.  When I first heard what my chemo regime was it seemed like a long, long spell of treatment, yet here I am with just one chemo to go and it feels like just yesterday I was diagnosed.  I still have other treatment including surgery to come but chemo was, for me, the great unknown.

Another plus is that treatment is still improving year on year, my mum has had very aggressive breast cancer twice now and has reached her 70s the fittest she's been since her 20s.

I won't say don't worry, but DO try and distract yourself (and get friends and family to help you if you want).  Whatever the outcome we are all here for you.

LJx

Hi hun just wanted to drop by to ask how u are doing today. Everything u are feeling is normal and what we breast ladies have all been through. Chrissie is spot on with her advice live in the here and now. Stop the what ifs, could haves nd should haves .... they are negative thoughts and what you need are positive ones. 

I too was told at ultrasound and biopsy that they were very confident to say we were looking at a cancer diagnosis. 2 lumps were spotted ( both in right breast both cancerous). I went on to have an MRI scan to check other breast. No new lumps detected.

what they are quite rightly doing is checking everything they need to to make sure you are given the best treatment you need. This is normal procedure. Your treatment will b tailored to your needs..... just need to identify your needs first....it’s scary but also very reassuring. 

Your mind will b tail chasing bless. It’s hard to believe but once all the test are done and you know your action plan... you will begin feel better. The waiting is always the worst if feels forever then suddenly it’s here. 

So chin up lass... look this in the eye nd stare it down... you are stronger than u think and can do this. Remember you are not alone we are here when you need us . ️