Hi Tiredout,

No wonder you chose that profile name it is exhausting caring for sick parents and moreso the older the get (which sadly means we're getting older too and more likely to get tired!)

Sorry you're having this worry but at this stage no-one can tell you for sure if she has cancer or no.  I can totally understand what about her symptoms is concerning you but then some of the symptoms are probably quite common in people of 94.  Chest X-rays show up masses but can't usually be used to diagnose those masses.  Needless to say there are a number of causes of lung masses that aren't cancerous.  Thankfully the CT scan will give them the answers you need.  The doctors may well be pretty sure one way or the other based on their experience but they tend to avoid saying the word we all dread until they know for sure (understandably).  Being honest I wouldn't be surprised if they are thinking the dreaded word but then the other possible conditions would require treatment that, at your mum's age, she may decide she doesn't want so there is hope.  

I really hope you get the CT scan quickly.  I cannot imagine how distressing this must be for your mum given her age, but even moreso for you having to see a loved one go through this.

I'm here if you want to vent, have a virtual shoulder, need some moral support...

LJx

Twin two 

thanks the appointment arrived in the post today she has her ct scan on saturday

i know I won’t get results then but it’s the waiting and not knowing

Hi Tiredout,

Glad it's come for quite soon.  You're right they're unlikely to tell you anything on Saturday but hopefully you'll get another appointment through for later next week.

The wait really is the hardest thing sadly, we've all been there so feel free to rant.

Hoping for the best.

LJx

Hmm..sorry for that and good luck with the scan report...keep strong and thinking of your mom and you x

Will be keeping you both in my thoughts, these are such trying times for you, remember to take care of yourself as well.

xx

Well got mums ct scan results and she has lung cancer and enphysema she has to see lung dr but because she is 94 the knly option open to her is pallative care 

not been told survival rate ect 

So sorry TiredOut,

I hope she isn't suffering too much and that palliative care will keep her comfortable and help her see out her days as peacefully as possible.  Also, assuming it will be in a home, rather than nurses coming to you, it will give you a chance to be 'just' a daughter again rather than a carer which I would see as a positive thing.

This must be so hard for you, and I imagine for your mum the change will be difficult enough at this time in her life, so I hope everything moves smoothly and in a way that works for you both.  Feel free to add me as a friend if you want to message privately to vent or to share stories about your mum from better days, if either helps.  But I imagine you're looking to spend as much time with your mum as possible.

Really hoping you get some quality time together and that you both feel peace and love as your mum's life sadly draws to a close as peacefully as possible.

Big hugs,
LJx