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Moral Dilemma....Should I tell family

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Hi... long story trying to cut short.

I'm 35 and was diagnosed (Paraganglioma in my neck) with cancer, I'm awaiting genetic testing results to see if it came from my father or mothers side if any.

the problem I have is that I've met my father once and he has 3 other children who I have never met. I asked him for his details to put on the genetics form and he never got back to me and has ignored me since. If I find out this is genetic should I tell him or not? Is it right that I know 3 people could possibly have a disease that can be caught early and stopped, or do I just not inform him as he obviously doesn't care? if I do inform him, will he tell his children? should I cut the middle man and inform them myself? ..... moral dilemma!!

thanks in advance for advice!

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    I can only say what i would is tell them you sound like a very caring person to think of them and for your own conscience but thats what i would do cant tell you what to do one thing though from what ive read it doesnt mean they will get it it means they have more chance of getting it ive been through this with my partners daughter she was ok thoe thank goodness sorry your having to go through this yourself but to think of otheres i take my hat off to you hope all goes well .P ps tread carefully with them

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    I see no moral dilemma here at all. If tests prove that the link is genetic, you simply must tell your father's children. 

    These people are your half-brothers and sisters. This might be an opportunity to open communications with a part of your family you've never met before. You'll probably find that they're all decent people who you will be glad you got to know. 

     

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    Hi there ...

    You've had all great advice ... just wanted to add ...

    If you do what's right, even if you get no thanks, or no replys ... you were a better man then your dad will ever be ... and then no matter what you can hold your head up, and be proud of what you did ... if they get back, great... if they don't,  move on and don't look back ... love the ones that love you... the rest don't matter ... it's his loss ...  Chrissie x

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    I like that you put it better than me .p

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