hi i just found out my mummy has cancer as well. it is early on but i am petrified as to what i do. i dont sleep at night and i am failing in school i am 14 what do i do

hi i just found out my mummy has cancer as well. it is early on but i am petrified as to what i do. i dont sleep at night and i am failing in school i am 14 what do i do

Hi Tstephens12

Welcome to Cancer Chat and sorry that your mum has cancer.

As well as coming here to share your feelings, there is a website called rip rap which you may like to look at.

It is designed specifically to support teenagers who have a parent affected by cancer, so it may be helpful to you.

Have you told anyone at your school about what is going on at home? Your school will be able to support you if you can explain why you are finding it difficult to study at the moment.

I hope this information is useful to you.

Let us know how you are getting on.

Best wishes to you and your family,

Jane

Hi and welcome

I'd like to just reinforce what Jane said about talking to people at school - they will have had people in your position before and they can help but only if you talk to them about it.

Also don't panic - cancer has come a long way in recent years, maybe you've seen some of the adverts that Cancer Research has done recently that now more than half of the people who get cancer survive it.

What you may not know is that a big factor in that is how early it is caught and how old some one is so it sounds as if your mum has a big head start.

If you're worried she will be even more so - but if I know anything about mums she'll mostly be worried about you!   

So - deep breath, go and talk to them at school about your mum and give her a big hug and maybe say to her that she can tell you about it if she feels up to it  

My mum has breast cancer in both breasts and it is now to late to operate. The only treatment is top stop the cancer from spreading. I want to know the chances of her living.