So sorry to hear of your diagnosis, it is such a difficult thing to hear. It's always going to be hard to tell the people who are close to you. I was diagnosed in January with breast cancer, have three grown up children, one still living at home. They knew I'd been having tests, so when I got results told them straight away. I phoned at a time when I wasn't feeling so emotional. I tried to sound upbeat and positive about the treatment I would be having. They have been a great support and have helped me stay as positive as I can be. Hopefully once you have told them, you will also find their support helpful at this difficult time. Xx

Thank you for taking  the time to reply, it means a lot.

My daughter is a very sensitive soul...... and this will devastate her, my son is a typical lad, he will be very quiet and hold in all his emotions.

I will do my best to sound positive and upbeat, for their sakes.....though I myself an struggling with it all   

I go around in a permanent haze, feel very shaky and tired aal the time.

There's not an hour goes by that I'm not thinking " what if".......

I'm sure they will be a great support to me.....but you kids are your kids forever..... just worry what this news will do to their lives........

They have no idea I've been for tests, as I felt sure everything would be OK, and I'd just have to tell them I was having a minor op, and there was nothing to worry about.....

Oh if only........

It's still very early days for you, so of course it's to be expected that you're struggling. In the beginning I thought I was going to find it difficult to try and be happy and smiling. However, I had my first chemo treatment on 4th March and all went well. Tonight I went out for a meal with hubby and we had a lovely evening. The kids and grandkids are coming over tomorrow and I'm really looking forward to it. I actually said to my husband tonight, that I didn't think I would be out and actually happy so soon after a treatment. It may get more difficult as I have surgery and radiotherapy further down the line. But I will just focus on one step at a time. I wish you well on your journey moving forward. Xx

A lot of us do find chemo a bit of an anticlimax. 
In my case, I had few side effects until after the second round, it seems to effect everyone in their own way.

Best wishes
Dave

Very helpful reading this . I am newly diagnosed with stage 4 breast cancer and do not know what to tell my grandson who we have raised form 4 months or my beautiful granddaughter. We're trying to wait until he finishes a levels and she her finals but if I am asked to start treatment before then we'll have to as I am determined to fight this as much as I can. 

I am a bit apprehensive about cycles 4-7 as it's a different chemo  (Docetaxel) and apparently side effects are worse. Just hope the next two go as well as the first, will just have to wait and see how the docetaxel goes. How many cycles did you fave to have and are you still going through treatment?

Different chemo (EOX - which they don’t seem to use now) different primary (stage 4 gastric-oesophageal junction) but I had 4 x 3 week cycles. 
1 & 2 were OK but 3 & 4 knocked me for six. 
I’ve just been on a watch (CT scans) and wait regime since 2014. 
I’ve been over the moon, but apprehensive, ever since!

Good to hear you are doing so well, but can understand your apprehension. I'm sure if I manage to beat this cancer, I'll be the same. Just have to try and stay as positive as possible I suppose!

Good to hear you are doing so well, but can understand your apprehension. I'm sure if I manage to beat this cancer, I'll be the same. Just have to try and stay as positive as possible I suppose!

Always - as I see it, every day is a bonus. 
When first given my prognosis, I had the option of cashing in my pension for 3 years..
I’m so pleased I didn’t choose that option

You're so right every day is a bonus. I'm trying to be as happy as I can be in the circumstances. Not always easy, but I'm trying my best!