Hi Suez, i know what your going through mine isn't breast but lungs and two lymph nodes just had my pet scan Friday , then lung biopsy this Friday , I know it's the waiting not knowing is the hard s ry part , I'm sorry your son is so far away , my son only lives  5 mins away but he still never calls texts or visits and believe me he was spoilt rotten wanted for nothing , I worked two jobs to ma sure my two children had everything I was a one parent  ,on the other hand my daughter has learning disabilities and she is the best I would be totally lost without her , please try stay strong and ositive I will be keeping you in my prayers , night  is the worst my thoughts go to the bad places , this is a cruel disease but we will all fight it together and bring each other strength xx  

Hi Suze,

 This stage when there are still some unknowns, is one of the most difficult parts of our cancer journey. Irrespective of the result, you will find it much easier once you get a treatment plan next week and can start to move forward. Take things a day at a time at the moment, or even an hour at a time if need be. Don't look too far ahead. Try to keep yourself occupied until your appointment.

If it's of any consolation, I have had two bouts of breast cancer, within a year of each other. That was all 14 years ago and I still lead a busy and fulfilling life.

As I've said in your other thread, we are always here for you.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

Hi Suze, I'm sorry to hear about your diagnosis, it is a scary time. It's good to talk to others on this site and share worries and concerns. I'm 61 and was diagnosed with breast cancer on 18th January. Had all the usual tests and now waiting for oncology appointment on14th February. Will be on chemo and Herceptin, then mastectomy, followed by radiotherapy. I wish you well on your forward journey always here if you need to chat. Xx

Hi again Ruth

I saw that you had sent me a private message but somehow I seem to have lost it, so sorry Im not sure how the process works. Please could you send it again 

Many thanks and apologies 

Suze (aka Suez)

Hello DEF

Thank you so much for your reply, so good to read it this morning. Can't agree more with what you say about night times - sleep gets disrupted and that affects your days. I'm so sorry to hear of your cancer and your son's lack of support, but you have a loving daughter who is a great comfort. We have this rotten disease but supporting each other can only help us, this site does such good. Bringing each other strength is a wonderful motivation.

Thinking of you for Friday and please stay in touch if you would be happy to, 

Much love xx

Hello Pippin

Thank you so much for your message especially as you are on a similar path to me but a bit ahead. Now you have some idea of your journey, did you get all the information you needed at your diagnosis and did it help to have your treatment pathway explained ? I'm told that the waiting to know that  is one of the hardest parts - my sister says I'm a control freak (meant in a nice way though) and not knowing or being able to plan things is part of why I'm so very anxious. 

I hope all goes well for you at your next stage and would really love to hear from you again, such messages are a lifeline for me from someone who is on a similar pathway.

Sue xxx

I'm sorry you're having a bit of trouble with using private messaging Suze.

I hope our guide on how to use private messaging will help, but if you're still unable to find the message, just let us know so we can help.

Kind regards,

Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator

At appointment when I wad told I had breast cancer, they weren't able to say exactly which way round treatment would be. Initially I thought it would be surgery, possible chemo and then radiotherapy. However, results came back that I'm HER2 positive, also apart from 2 lumps, cancer cell have been found in other tissue in the breast. Was then told chemo first with Herceptin (apparently the wonder drug), full mastectomy, then radiotherapy. I am seeing oncologist on 14th February, to find out what chemo I need and for how long. Not sure how long it takes from this appointment, to actually starting any treatment. I'm still waiting for ct scan results to see if it's spread (nervous about this one) and further biopsies. Hope this doesn't delay start of treatment. The waiting is definitely the hard bit, think I'll feel better once treatment has started. Sorry, to hear your son also has cancer issues and is so far away. Would be nice if you could facetime or just chat on the phone, he'll know what your going through. Would be happy to post updates and share experiences on this journey. I hope you get some more answers very soon. Xx 

Dear Pippin, thank you so much for sharing, you must be so anxious, at the moment you only know so much. You sound so articulate and strong, a real example to me. I'm having a bad day and dont want to call friends/my son (he does know and has been very supportive) as theyve heard it all and can't really add anything, despite wanting to be there for me. Hearing from you is such a help, please do let me know your progress, post updates and share as often as you like, I'll be here and thinking of you. Sending love xx

Dear Jolamine, thank you for this, it's good to hear you lead such a good life after having breast cancer twice, it must have been so very tough. Im so grateful to you and to the others who have replied to my initial post for all their support.  Thinking of you all, Suze xx