How do you do the "waiting game"?

Yesterday when I heard the news, after my biopsy was taken, that on a scale of 1-5 they gave me a 4 for a probability that I had cancer I was really pragmatic and wanted to discuss all the possible options with the breast cancer nurse.  Today I just feel physically sick and on the brink of having a melt down.  

What hints do you have to distract yourself.  I have a 2-3 week wait for confirmation of the results.

Any advice appreciated.

Thank you.

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  • Hi,

    Telling you that was very unprofessional, you are well within your rights to make a formal complaint. I’m pretty sure it wasn’t a doctor who talked such nonsense.

    The vast majority of cancer test referrals end in a negative result. That’s because “query cancer?” referrals are made if the referring clinician thinks there is as little as a 5% chance that the presenting symptoms may indicate cancer. 

    There is literally no way of knowing a biopsy is cancerous without testing it and examining it under a powerful microscope. Anyone who tells you otherwise risks being struck off no matter how “experienced” they think they are.

    Waiting for results is stressful enough without that sort of uninfomed nonsense echoing around your head. 

    I agree with everyone else that dogs are a great distraction.

    Good luck!

    Dave

  • I agree with you entirely. A consultant said to me, words to the effect of, we have to be careful with words but it looks suspicious. That was fair enough. Two days later I had a letter from a different consultant who had seen me ten days previously that was totally careless with words, used medical terminology some of which I understood and some I didn't but looked up and wished I hadn't; that letter made me feel my world had ended by its awful diagnosis. One week later I had a biopsy done fotr which I await the results.

  • Mary, I was asked if I wanted to know everything or the minimal amount.  For me to cope, I need to know everything, to research, to look at options, its my way of getting through whatever is going to be thrown my way.

  • That's fair enough then. I was just adding my experience.

    Take care, keep posting, we are here to listen and help if possible.

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