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My dad has terminal cancer and I don’t know how to cope

Hannahlisa17
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Hi, 

We found out today that my lovely dad has cancer. Incurable lung cancer at the top of his lung, which has spread to part of his liver, bone and a couple lymph nodes. The doctors have said that they can treat it but it isn't curable, they have expressed that chemo is an option and he has said he will have the chemo. 
I'm struggling to cope with the prospect of losing him, he is 57 and I am 24 and my sister is 26. He is our whole world. 
I'm seeking some comfort in knowing it hasn't spread to his other lung, but knowing it has spread elsewhere is devastating me. 
We don't know how much time he has, has anybody experienced similar diagnosis and know roughly how long they survived. 
He is very fit and healthy, he hasn't had any typical symptoms of cancer. No weight loss, appetite is fine, no weakness or cough or persistent infections/illnesses. 
His X-Ray was clear however his CT scan showed otherwise. 
I'm struggling to cope with this diagnosis and don't know if I can actually carry on if and when something happens to him. 
Sorry this post is all over the place, my heads a mess.

  • Offline in reply to T16d4wn

    Hi!

    Thank you so much for taking the time to read and reply. I love reading your story of your Grandad, it gives me a lot of hope for my lovely dad. He has been my everything since my mom left in 2012, I can't imagine not having him here. 
    My worry is he is suffering with pain in his rib due to a cancer spot being there as well. I'm reassured in knowing that apart from that he is okay. But I still panic that it's just going to get worse until he is doped on morphine and palliative. 
    They have said radiation for his pain is an option to go alongside his specific treatment, which we will know more about once his biopsy is back. 
    All the best with your grandad, Hannah x

  • Offline in reply to Billygoatt

    Hi Billy 

    I am so sorry to hear this . My dad was diagnosed on Tuesday with aggressive prostate cancer that has spread to his spine . I'm at a loss with how to deal with this. He's only 61 , strong and fit and this has come out of the blue . We've been told that he cannot be cured but they will help to prolong his life . My heart is shattered into pieces 

     

    please take care of yourself 

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    Hi Hannah, I just read your post. Sorry to hear about your dad.  It's not easy to go through this, and I say from experience, as my dad has been diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer metastasis. now.He is 80 years old and is undergoing Chemoimmuno. I understand your pain. 

    Thank you for sharing your story. Take care xx 

  • Offline in reply to Ru_999

    Hi Hannah 

    I'm so sorry to hear about your dad, I know how you're feeling my wife was diagnosed with liver cancer 3 years ago and unfortunately she passed away last month, all I can say is make the most of you time you have with your dad, I know it's hard to come to terms with but you must try and stay strong for yourself and your dad, I'm sending my love and prayers to you

    Take care Paul 

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